Personality Plus for Couples: Understanding Yourself and the One You Love

This is a must read for every couple. The information in this book changed my mariage, and it can do the same thing for everyone who reads and understands the information on The Personalities.

My marriage was in a very rough place, in fact I was planning to divorce, when a friend introduced me to Florence Littauer's books. My husband irritated me, everything about him had begun to rub me the wrong way. I felt like nothing would ever change, and it was hopeless. This book was instrumental in helping me understand why we were so different, and why he acted and behaved the way he did. I am Choleric with some melancholy, and he is Phlegmatic with some melancholy. It showed me my own strengths and weaknesses, and how to understand, accept, and appreciate my husband's strengths and weaknesses. In the end it helped us both to communicate better and enjoy each other more. Now, over a decade later, we are still together and stronger than ever. The principles still apply, and we joke that his "melancholy is showing" or that I'm "being Choleric". I also found it helped me to better understand my relationships outside of marriage too- including my children's personalities and quirks. I recommend this book regularly to other couples who are looking to improve their marriages, need to improve communication, and want to understand each other better, and have given copies as wedding gifts.

I have been familiar with the work of the Littauers since the 1970s. It is because I am so impressed with their work that I purchased three in her series to give as gifts to friends. My husband and I were exact opposites on the personality charts. Our marriage was very rocky. After we understood what was causing the sandpaper we were able to get to the polished product which was a very enlightening and healing process. The principles in this book made it possible for us to communicate in a style acceptable to us both and we resolved our problems from there. I recommend these books to anyone who wants to relate better with not just their husband, but family, friends, and business associates--And ourselves! We were able, at last, to create the loving and supportive home environment which had been our intention from the beginning.

I have been a student of Florence and Fred Littauer for more than fifteen years--when I first stumbled onto "Personality Plus". Understanding the Personalities has been the single greatest life-changing tool I have ever found. Our once "shaky" marriage now flourishes because we understand and appreciate each other's unique God-given personality--both the strengths and the weaknesses. We now travel and work together 24/7, and love every minute we are together. We are successful bacause we have learned to operate more in our individual strengths, while striving to compensate for each other's weaknesses, now that we understand them. If you are interested in improving the quality of your relationship, and understanding more about yourself and your mate, this is a must-read!

I'm a bonafide fan of Florence Littauer. After reading Personality Plus and finding out a lot about myself, I decided to read this book and get some insight regarding my relationship with my hubby.We've known each other for over 30 years, though we've only been married about half that, yet this book showed me things about my husband that I didn't recognize before (or didn't want to see!).My husband's personality has a lot of Peaceful Phlegmatic, with some Perfect Melancholy and a smattering of the other two. Reading this book helped me to see why some of our (ahem) 'discussions' went the way that they did. There's great info here for anyone who would like to understand their partner's personality and how it relates to their own.I definately recommend this book to couples, as it's a great way to find ways to relate to each other differently without pointing fingers or laying blame. This book, as all of Florence's are, is affirming and positive, and even a little humourous. No heavy treatment of a potentially 'serious' subject here, you'll be entertained as well as educated and have some real 'aha' moments.Get this book and I highly recommend the 'Personality Plus - How to Understand Others by Understanding Yourself' book as well. They'll become well-used manuals in your relationship library.