Paying for It: A Guide by Sex Workers for Their Clients

This book contains great advice for clients or potential clients of professional sex services. Whether you are looking to see an escort, Pro Domme, or just go to a peep show- this book has advice for you. Sections are written by professionals covering many aspects of sex work, including prostitutes, Pro Dommes and Pro Submissives, Phone Sex Workers, Strippers, and Dancers. Are you nervous about contacting a Pro because you are not sure what to do when you meet them? Worried about the fee being higher than you can afford? I found this book to be highly entertaining and full of useful information for anyone who avails themselves of the services of professionals. Advice is given by professional workers for all aspects of sex work- including Professional Dominatrices, Professional submissives, Strippers, and Escorts to name just a few. And even if you are only interested in visiting a Professional Domme, you should read the whole book. I have worked as a Pro Domme for many years and have not provided any other sex work services and I found that they all had something to say that was applicable and which I, myself, would love for my clients to know. I would also recommend this book to anyone thinking of going into this business. I originally read this book because I was teaching a class on becoming a Pro Domme and honestly, I was not sure how applicable it would be to my class. I found that it was full of useful information for those thinking of going into this sort of business. If you want to know what you really deal with- both good and bad- it is in this book.

What is really terrific about this book is the fact that it incorporates so many different voices, giving varying perspectives on the question. Too often people know about one aspect of the sex industry and make assumptions that they understand everything that there is to understand about it; this book gives enough perspectives to discourage -- though obviously not eliminate -- that assumption. At times funny and smart, casual and intense, the voices here will make sex work approachable and understandable to those who are just thinking about it, either as potential clients or potential workers, and provide valuable insights into the culture and ethos of the business before faux pas can be made. For those who are just curious, it's an excellent introduction to *some* of the people who live in this world. --- Jeannette Angell, author of CALLGIRL

The American sex industry rivals the revenues and numbers of employees of several Fortune 500 companies combined. Quiet literally a multi-billion dollar industry, this area of the service industry operates quite similarly to any other in terms of workers and managers getting better revenue flow through better service hallmarked with courtesy, empathy, and professionalism. Paying For It: A Guide By Sex Workers For Their Clients is basically an instruction manual for sex industry patrons to obtaining the most for the money in terms of quality and quantity -- just as they would any other type of commercial transaction for any other type of product or service. Knowledgeably compiled and expertly edited by Greata Christina, Paying For It is a combination consumer handbook and an etiquette manual. Very strongly recommended reading for anyone interested in sex work, whether as a provider or a consumer, Paying For It is virtually unique, expertly informative, and reliably authoritative reading.

This book is interesting in that it speaks of a topic most would prefer to be swept under the carpet somewhere, ie conduct and etiquette when dealing with sex workers of any kind. It's a subject most would rather avoid discussing, but as long as it indeed exists and will never go away, there might as well be a book about this topic. And what struck me about the approximately 30 essays in the book from professional dominants, prostitutes, strippers and escorts was a common theme. The "theme" being that anyone visiting any type of sex worker should treat them like any other worker, by being polite and well-groomed (ie making sure to bathe before visiting one!). While I'm not in the habit of using any sex worker-related services (although one never knows), it floors me to think people just assume because a sex worker is in an "illegal" trade that it gives them the right to be rude or unkempt. It somehow seems common sense to me the nicer you treat someone, the nicer generally they'll treat you. While there are numerous other "rules of etiquette" these sex workers discuss, it seems you'll have a better time by being well-mannered. This truly is a book that deserves to be available, even if the topic is one that makes some uncomfortable.