Patterns of Infidelity and Their Treatment

Patterns of Infidelity and Their Treatment is an essential resource for knowledgable professionals. It's comprehensive, detailed, and thorough and I have found it very useful in my clinical and mediation practice. It is at the top of my recommended reading list for professionals on affairs. Isolina Ricci, Ph.D.

I have been a marriage and family therapist for over 40 years and believe that Ms. Brown's book does an excellent job of dealing with affairs from a family system perspective. From my experience this framework provides a way for therapists and client couples to grasp the devastation of a marital affair and begin the process of healing. As therapists we must deal with both process and content. This book does an excellent job of portraying the various dances (types of affairs) as the process that sets the stage for a possible affair. I don't believe that Ms. Brown says all these dances will lead to an affair only that they may set the stage for such. As therapists it our goal to make the covert dance more overt. Her book absolutely supports the fact that the betraying partner is 100% responsible for the poor choice of dealing with uncomfortable marital dances by having an affair. What Ms. Brown does is distinguish between process, not always fully conscious, and the dysfunctional choices this can trigger in some partners. She does this in clear language that allows individuals and couples to understand the covert process. Once couples understand the process, they can begin the long road to healing. If they understand and choose to change it opens the marriage to a healthier connection.