Parents Who Love Too Much: How Good Parents Can Learn to Love More Wisely and Develop Children of Character

This book challenges all that you thought you learned about parenting from your childhood. In my constant research on parenting (I have a precocious two year old), I found that this book hit upon many of the issues I have been struggling with. It emphasizes how short-term fixes can create long-term problems. It demonstrates how things that parents do out of love for their children can hurt them in the long run, like bailing out of problems, protecting from mistakes and controlling what they see, do and think. It talks about guilt, worry and introspection. It was a revelation for me because some of the behaviors I thought made me a great mom could actually cause coping problems in the long-term.The ideas are presented in a realistic, sympathetic way by the authors. They constantly remind the reader that perfect parenting is not possible, but keeping their concepts in mind will help your children in the long run. They also remind the reader that parenting is not comfortable. If you are comfortable all the time, you are probably loving too much and causing long term issues for your kids.I highly recommed this book as a different point of view on what a good parent really is. It makes you think, it makes you work hard, and it can make a difference.