Overcoming the Rating Game: Beyond Self-Love--Beyond Self-Esteem

I found the following messages of the author especially valuable: 1. We are succeeding always as long as we are learning. 2. Doing badly is a valuable experience for learning. 3. Doing things correctly tells us what we want to repeat. 4. After much discipline and hard work, our performance will come closer to our potential ability, and this process is defined as success. So in stead of measuring myself against others, I should measure my performance against my potential.

This is the best book I have ever read on Self-esteem.The essense of the book is not how to develop self-esteem but how to get rid of it and develop self-acceptance.Paul Hauck gives numerous examples on ill effects of self-rating.He points out self-esteem is sickness.But Hauck doesn't mean to devalue the value of achievement and enormous benefits it begets.He urges us to develop achievement confidence instead of self-confidence.This book can eliminate the inferiority and superiority complex we all suffer from.Excellent book built on REBT framework which can change one's life for good

I now believe that most emotional disturbance is a result of this thing called "self-esteem/worth/" and their evil twin "ego". Social fears can be attributed to the idea that we will somehow be magically diminished in some way as human beings if people disapprove of us. This book is a great start in demolishing that foolish idea. Another great book that covers this subject is "Overcoming the Myth of Self-Worth" by Richard Franklin.

The book is insightful, and well-written. I reread it any time I'm feeling a bit depressed or down. Outlines the basic princliples of rational-emotive therapy.