OOPS! I Forgot My Wife: A Story of Commitment as Marriage and Self-Centeredness Collide

An excellent book giving straight talk about what we men do wrong in marriage. An open examination of how our self-centeredness damages our marriages, and the kind of marriages that our Lord wishes for us to have. An owners manual to lead you to the ultimate owners manual.

This is really a pretty good book. I have to admit that I held little optimism for this book initially. The cover was a bit corny and the intro sounded a bit down home for me. I got a good deal on the book and the reviews were good so I took the plunge. I am very glad I did. The book is written mostly as a series of emails with a couple of brief epilogues. Through the emails we see the story of a marriage in trouble. Let's not kid ourselves this is a marriage in crisis. The emails are a series of correspondence between our fictional (I believe) couple individually to our good counselor and also from a couple that is supporting the troubled pair to the counselor and amongst themselves. Sound confusing? Don't worry. It isn't. The story, for that is what it is, is easy to follow and well written. The method of using emails is an excellent way for the author to tell us exactly how he feels without coming off as lecturing. The different situations are sometimes extreme but usually teach a valuable lesson. Personally I found the book totally engrossing. I read the entire test except for the last 20 pages in one sitting. The impact of the lessons told in a folksy style hit home even if the situations did not match mine closely. So here is my summary of good and bad. Good: 1. God centered. If you are a Christian this will fit well in your faith system. If you are not a Christian the faith based parts might turn you off to the rest of the text.....might. 2. Has high impact. The cost of not making sacrifices and doing what is right are told in a high impact and emotional way. 3. Progression is right. The issues escalate and the blindness of people is real. 4. Easy to read. Short chapter/emails. Bad: 1. Cartoons. There are cartoons at the end of most chapters. I just didn't get the humor honestly. 2. Some of the situations seemed a bit extreme. 3. The later dialogue and developments felt just a bit rushed and extreme. Not horribly so but not as natural as the first ¾ of the book. The bad points are really not bad as much as personal observations. I endorse this book for any couple (especially men) who are having a crisis in the relationship. Maybe better read it before you do in order to learn how to avoid the crisis. Remember we are human. Wanting to be good and do the right thing is never enough. This book is a great help. I found it inspiring, motivational and a great tool. I found myself wondering how I could email someone like the counselor in this book just to hash things out. I have not seen or read the study guide but I imagine that it would be an excellent study guide if it is based on this text.

A book for every couple to read. It truly opens your eyes to how easy it is for men and women to grow apart. At the same time, it provides some simple "rule of thumb" type applications that can make a huge difference in your relationship. Cause a huge paradigm shift for me. The e-mail setting for the writing style was fantastic.

This book is not only challenging and educational, it's enjoyable too. It's obvious that Doyle Roth made a concious effort to make it humorous, witty, and easy to read. What's missing from it, thank goodness, is all the shrink-speak and psycho-babble you normally get with this subject matter. Mr. Roth dares you to love your wife the way Jesus loved His bride, the church. If you read this book, you will find yourself in a state of self-reflection asking yourself how you can be a better, more-loving and less self-certered husband.

This book has life changing potential. If you are married or know anyone who is this is a must read for you. The presentation of the material is in story format, which makes it not only an easy and entertaining read but also a very educational and informative read. It confronts the everyday issues that will tear relationships apart and offers solutions to help out. It is full of humor and heart, it will touch you and make you want to be a better person, to love more, and to love better. It will challenge you to be a better spouse and to encourage others around you to do the same. Grab a copy quick and get ready to read, because once you get started you won't want to put it down.