How I discovered the truth of who I am. As I grew up, the adults in my life kept a secret from me. No one ever mentioned that I had been adopted. So when I was 14, my accidental and totally unexpected discovery was traumatic, extremely difficult to deal with, and had lasting consequences. This is the story of how I surrounded myself with what I call my 'chosen' family, while desperately trying to discover my birth family. Ohana is an idea in...