Nothing's Wrong: A Man's Guide to Managing Emotions (Gift for Men, Learn Good Communication Skills)

Nothing's Wrong: A Man's Guide To Managing His Feelings by family therapist and public speaker David Kundtzis an impressively instructive self-help guide written especially for men to dealing with their feelings in a productive manner. The advice and insights within these pages are neither "mushy" nor intended to in any way discourage the worthy and traditionally masculine goals of protector, provider, and role model, but rather will substantively help men of all faiths and cultures lead happier and healthier lives, and less likely to be struck down by stress-related ills. A practical and easy-to-understand assessment, Nothing's Wrong is very highly recommended reading.

When asked, "What's wrong?" men usually respond with "Nothing's wrong" effectively negating all further discussion. This response also prevents men from working through their feelings. Generally speaking, men do not know what to do with their feelings. Society accepts only a narrow amount of emotional expression from men -- mostly anger and aggression. Thus, men tend to be uncomfortable with their own feelings and the feelings of others. Because of this, men fail to learn how to identify and express their feelings in a healthy way. Put simply, men are emotional illiterates. This is tragic, for it keeps men from living a whole life. "Not to be aware of one's feelings, not to understand them or know how to use or express them, is worse than being blind, deaf or paralyzed. Not to feel is not to be alive" -- (Dr. David Viscott). Men need emotional as well as intellectual intelligence. "Emotional intelligence is 'awareness of one's own feelings as they occur' -- it is being smart in dealing with your feelings" (p. 39). Thinking and feeling are not at odds, but are complementary. Thinking leads to feeling just as feeling leads to thinking (p. 40). In order to live a whole life, men must notice their feel, identify their feelings, and express their feelings -- regardless of whether they are weak or strong. Feelings are not wrong (they just are) nor are they feminine. Sporting events are not the only place where one is allowed to feel strongly! This is a great introduction to an important topic that men must embrace or risk living only half a life!