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Paperback Nobody's Mother: Life Without Kids Book

ISBN: 1894898400

ISBN13: 9781894898409

Nobody's Mother: Life Without Kids

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Finalist for the 2007 BC Book Prizes' Bill Duthie Booksellers' Choice Award Statistics say that one in 10 women has no intention of taking the plunge into motherhood. Nobody's Mother is a collection... This description may be from another edition of this product.

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Nobody's Mother

I enjoyed the essays. It is a book that I will read again, I am certain. I particularly liked the personal reflections and commitment to life choices, those to be celebrated and some to be endured. Although the title is a bit misleading because most of these women are not "without kids". Many of them teach, mentor and parent and though their choice may not to have been to birth a child, these women have children in their lives. I had expected a more varied body of non-mothers, but enjoyed what each had to say. I had also expected that these writers were "without" children rather than generally being surrounded by other people's children in most cases..be it stepkids, extended family or students. I am still left with the questions...Are there women without children? Interesting book.

Life Without Kids

We celebrate the births of babies and ask our friends how their children are. If we have friends without children, we don't usually broach the subject of their childlessness. It seems too personal a question to ask someone. Did they ever want to have children or did they make a conscious decision not to? Nobody's Mother offers a variety of frank answers to such questions. You just may receive the inspiration to raise the sensitive subject. According to the contributors to this collection of personal essays, many women choose not to bear children because they feel they can accomplish more in the world without them. In fact, statistics reveal that one in 10 women is choosing not to bear children. Some of the contributors became mothers by becoming stepmothers. Broadcaster Shelagh Rogers, who wrote the foreword, wanted a child when she married but her husband already had three. She was frustrated and hurt not to be able to plan for a child of their own. The essays in the collection are by Canadian and American women who range in age from their early 30s to mid-70s. Many are writers. Others are teachers, researchers, Aboriginal-rights activists and world travelers. The women have used a variety of styles to tell their stories which is a testament to their own unique lives. As the editor points out about the women, "not one of them is a nobody simply because she is 'nobody's mother.'" Although some of the women realize the timing and circumstances just weren't right for a child, there is the sense of something missing, no matter how many others' children they may be close to. In some cases, their relationship or memories of their own upbringing affected their choices. Mary Jane Copps, who lives in Halifax, Nova Scotia, changed her mind and changed it again so that "many of my choices have contributed to my being childless. I live with this as regret and blessing both, a point of chaos within my ordered life." She reveals that she has always been afraid of becoming her mother. "No positive reinforcement" is one of the reasons Laurel Bernard of Victoria, B.C. gives for not having children. She writes a funny essay about being eccentric, along with her husband John: they don't have children because they are children, she says. Zoologist and science writer Nancy Baron had surgery to unblock a Fallopian tube but never did get pregnant. Her husband felt he was "running out of time" to become a father and separated from her. Baron found a new love, her soulmate, who also didn't have children and they both share that regret. She's the writer who comes closest to describing the anquish of infertility. Poet Lorna Crozier found when she looked in Roget's Thesaurus that the synonyms for "childless" are "about as negative as you can get." For instance, "acarpous," from the Greek, means "bearing no fruit, sterile." Crozier considered having a baby while in her mid-30s, with a man who had five already. She wonders if Patrick's refusal to have more children

Fruitful Examination of Not Having Kids

I wasn't sure what to expect w/ this book. It fell out of the shelf at the university library, when I was placing another book beside it. This seemed serendiptious, so I checked it out. Disclaimer: I have two children myself and probably wouldn't have bought the book or looked for it. I found the book thoughtful, funny, and a little heartbreaking at times. The writing was honest, provocative, and thankfully unapologetic, which I appreciated most. These women were not bending themselves over backwards for forgetting to have children. A good number of them just didn't want to have kids. It's ironic that for a culture (Western culture) that argues so vociferously for children doesn't understand that having kids is a choice and that not everyone should have children. I hope that this book will be like the _Dropped Threads_ series and that a companion piece or two will be published. The audience for this book is wide--general or lay audience and undergraduate english, literature, sociology, anthropology and women's studies.

Straight from the Heart

This Canadian anthology by various childless women is fabulous. Excellent writing, honesty and freshness set this book apart from the many other tomes on childlessness and make it not just a one-subject collection but an outstanding work of creative nonfiction. The writers have come to be childless in various ways, and they have really thought about what it means to never have children. What I like most is that there is no disapproval of others' choices, no dismissing mothers as "breeders" or childless women as "selfish." In fact, many of the women love children and have found that their childless state allows them to spread their mothering wherever it is needed. Highly recommended.

Nobody's mother but definitely not a...nobody!!!

XXXXX Consider the following questions: (1) Have childless women missed out on one of the greatest experiences a women can have? (2) Are mothers happier than childless women? (3) Are mothers more fulfilled than childless women? (4) Does being a mother make a women more "complete?" (5) What are childless woman REALLY up to? (6) What do childless women do with all the time they have not raising children? (7) Are childless couples really DI-NKS (double income, no kids)? These are just some of the questions answered in this enlightening, provocative, and sometimes humorous book, an anthology of brief essays (the last essay is actually a poem). The editor of this surprisingly frank book explains: "[These] personal essays written by Canadian and American women...range in age from their early 30s to [their] mid-70s. Not all of the 21 contributors are professional writers--some are teachers, researchers, Aboriginal-rights activists, and world travelers--although almost all of them rely upon language and the written word in their work...This collection of personal essays examines the child-bearing choice intelligently and honestly, from [the] individual contributors' points of view; the essayists are your neighbors, your sisters, your colleagues, and your friends." The women who contributed to this book can generally be put into three groups: (1) those that are child-free intentionally (2) those that are child-free by circumstances (3) those that are child-free due to some twist of fate Did I read some essays where there was some regret expressed about not having children? Yes. It seemed to me that this regret was more of a "comparison regret" or a "conformity regret" where the childless woman compared herself to usually her siblings and friends who were having children. This regret didn't seem to last long. I did notice that all contributors did have one thing in common: an overwhelming contentment with their lives. Each essay ends with a brief description of a particular essayist's life. Here is an example: "Lorna Crozier has taught at the University of Victoria [in British Columbia, Canada] since 1991. She has published 12 books of poetry...Her books have received [many awards]. She has also published non-fiction in various anthologies and has edited several collections of essays. Her poems have been translated into several languages and she has read her work from one end of the world to another. Her love for animals, especially cats, is boundless." Finally, my only minor quibble with the book is with the above brief descriptions. I think they would have been more effective at the beginning of each essay so the reader could become acquainted with the female writer from the onset. (When I came to a particular essay, I flipped to its end to read about its writer then I read the essay proper.) In conclusion, it's about time we had a book like this that deals directly with a controversial issue. Many of the contributors
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