No Time to Say Goodbye: Surviving The Suicide Of A Loved One

I am lucky to have this book as the first book that was given to me after my boyfriend killed himself. I was searching for answers and experiencing a strange grief that I had no point of reference for. This book was my reference. It comforted me, identified with me exactly and covers the suvivors expereince so well, that I felt I was not alone. Not a small task! It also gave me hope for the future. Thanks to Carla Fine!

I found this book the best help from all the books I have read. It shows that suicide survivors are not alone in their quest for answers to their sudden loss. And the multitude of examples listed will give everyone an opportunity to identify with another person who has been through more or less the same ordeal. I would like to recommend this book above all the others that are listed under suicide survivors. It is sympathetic, understanding, and much more help than I ever anticipated.

I lost my mom and my brother to suicide; my sister keeps trying. This book has done more than I thought possible to make me understand that the anger and guilt and anguish that I feel at my loss can be overcome. The stories the author shares put a voice to my own experiences as a survivor.

Carla leaves no stone unturned. She captures insights from the survivors from whose stories we can even gain a perspective on those that left us behind. She pointedly shows that tragically, oftentimes the signs are there yet for some reason whether it is by some form of unconscious denial or a cushioned buffer we just don't notice those signs enough to react in time to help our loved ones. Or so we may think! The common denominator is that survivors wear themselves down trying to figure it all out before realizing that the solution may never be clear. Acceptance and reconciliation with the self vis-a-vis this life-changing event are the first steps toward mourning and healing. The writing is exceptional. There was not one disappointing page. This was a well-planned, well-researched, well prepared, book. Every survivor will relate to something written there that seems to come out of our mind and flow into the pages of her book. A resource book and must read for every survivor of a suicide. Thank you to Carla Fine for your candor and honesty and for this gift to life for the ages.

In a frantic attempt to understand the sudden suicide of my brother, I read numerous suicide related titles. Carla Fine's "No Time to Say Goodbye : Surviving the Suicide of a Loved One" was the only book which in anyway connected with my raw feelings as a survivor. It's not a great academic study of suicide. The professional, academic titles are painfully remote, inaccurate and inadequate from a survivor's perspective. "No Time to Say Goodbye:" doesn't answer the only question that matters most to survivors, "Why?". It provides a supporting context for the horrendous assault on a survivor's emotional and intellectual resources following a loved one's suicide. Knowing that others feel the same things doesn't make the pain go away, but reassures that probably you too will survive what feels unbearable. I personally found this book more helpful that the visits to "professional" counselors. Some things in life have to be experienced, not studied, to be understood. Sadly the author has the painful real life credentials to understand and connect with survivors. From her own traumatic loss Carla Fine has provided a great measure of help in what appears to be a helpless situation.