No, It's Not Hot in Here: A Husbands Guide to Understanding Menopause

When I started going though menopause I thought I better read up on the subject so I will know what is happening to my body. I bought this book for my husband and read it also. This book is written by a man for men. I learned more from this book than any other menopause book I read. He explained thing in a non medical way that was so easy to understand. I have shared this book with many women I work with and they have love it too!!

I'm guessing this is one of those books women buy for their husbands who, of course, will never bother to read it. BUT...I found it very enlightening to get some understanding of how men might react to menopause. For example, in a comment about hot flashes, the author says it's important to realize "she's not doing this on purpose." Whaaa? It never even occurred to me that my hubby might think I was intentionally bringing these symptoms on or could simply wish them away! This one phrase was worth the price of the book, because it put a lot of my husband's insensitive responses into perspective.Though this might not have been the author's intention (and truly, he seems to have a much higher opinion of men's ability/desire to support their partners during menopause than I do) this book helped me tremendously because I have stopped taking my husband's lack of understanding personally. I can see now that it's very difficult for a man to emphathize with a physical change he will never experience.But Dick Roth manages to do it, and if your husband DOES read this book, I hope you appreciate how lucky you are.

This is not a heavy, scholarly work of medicine or psychology...I read it in a couple of quick evenings. Roth explains what goes on during menopause, but does an even better job sketching out the large unknown areas surrounding this poorly understood transition. He describes a variety of "treatments" available to menopausal women but makes a strong case that, since menopause is a natural (and possibly valuable) process, it isn't an illness that requires treatment in most cases. He puts most of his energy into suggesting ways for husbands to understand and help their wives during this transition...all simple common sense, but clear and welcome just the same. Thank you, Dick Roth.

cats and dogs, mars and venus, you name it, if its the antithesis of one another, i feel for you. this book provided some very helpful insite into a.realizing i was not aloneb.i was not really going crazyC.how much i love my wife thanks dick

My fiance has entered into 'instant menopause' to use her terminology, after a hysterectomy. We wrestled with HRT and its risks, but neither of us knew what to expect on the personal relationship side. Dick Roth's book clarified this whole situation for us instantly! We have actually turned her physical discomforts and the annoying everyday 'stuff' into a new form of entertainment. This is a Must Read! It takes only a few hours and will transform a potential disaster into a real benefit for you and your lady.