Nlp and Relationships: Simple Strategies to Make Your Relationships Work

How do people communicate? When I say I'm "frustrated" - in a particular context, HOW do YOU understand the exact shading of the word? Of course, you understand (if not colorblind) when I say "Robin's Egg Blue". So what do I mean when I say, "I'm feeling satisified"? How do we learn from birth to use WORDS to express THOUGHTS? Remember when drunken Aunt Mary once embarassed you at a family gathering (which you've avoided all your life now...), stating you were always destined to be fat like your mother? Are you fat, or still fearful of it today? How about when Freddy, in the 2nd grade, made some stupid but biting remark about you that even today you remember vividly and you STILL hate dodgeball? What is the power of words, indirect and direct, that affect us, years afterwards? And what about the power of the words we choose today? Can they make us healthier, more attractive, happier? Can we really find that good mate, if we undertsand ourselves first? It's science, you know. And you can easily understand it, and understand what you need to do to improve your communications and your relationships. This tape set is priceless...absolutely invaluable. It's suitable for all groups - all ages. Share it with your lover, your friends, your family. This book is so powerful, I gave separate copies to my children and my spouse. I've gifted several friends as well. My advice: Read SLOWLY. Savor each sentence. Work through the simple exercises in the book. Take your time and let this book come in it's own time, perhaps over a period of weeks. I read as few as 2 or 3 pararaphs a day, and it was very powerful. Somehow I KNEW what was here...but no one had ever put it in such clearly defined terms. Also, get a companion audiobook: An Introduction to NLP Neuro-Linguistic Programming : Psychological Skills for Understanding and Influencing People [AUDIOBOOK] by Joseph O'Connor. Priceless information that tells you HOW to decide for yourself.

Contrary to what the title might make you think, you don't need NLP knowledge in order to use this book. The way it's written makes it even hard to recognize the NLP bits (I had to search for them).Why only 4 stars? Even if the book is well written and is easy to understand, I had expected more from the book. The authors should have added some extra chapters dealing with other learnings from NLP that apply for relationships. Maybe I should be happy, at least that leaves room for others to write books. Also, the publisher has applied some low cost techniques: the paper is a bit cheap and the font used is a bit small.Patrick E.C. Merlevede, MSc -- co-author of "7 Steps to Emotional Intelligence"

This is a personal, engaging and satisfying book. The subtitle, "simple strategies to make your relationships work" may be misleading. It is more than that. As it is stated in the preface, "This book is not, however, about how to change or manipulate others into being what you want them to be. Nor is it about trying to fit into other people's expectations regardless of your own point of view. It is about being more yourself, putting more of yourself into a relationship and letting the other person be themselves too..." What a beautiful goal! The two co-authors have the gift in guiding us along in very simple language, metaphors, anecdotes and questions. They help us grow in understanding our biological, social and intellectual dimensions, or what they call "voices". They have distilled much wisdom from current literature on relationship, genetic factors, male and female differences and give life to the vision and concepts of NLP without any technical jargon. Instead of acquiring specific strategies or techniques, one grows through developing the different perspectives and reflecting on oneself, one's wants and shared goals, and learning how to change and love with commitment. I highly recommend this book to anyone interested in life-long growing, esp. in relating.