Nina Hartley's Guide to Total Sex

This book is definately not for just people who are beginners, it's for the pros too! Lots of very useful information on all sorts of adult topics. The writing is interesting while at the same time very informative. Since Nina is a nurse, she follows hygiene and safety very thoroughly. Not offensive, gawdy or overdone. It's definately not boring! Very to the point with LOTS of handy hints and helpful info. Covers every topic you want to know about but don't usually ask. Would totally recommend this to any adult looking to become more sexually aware. Very good!!! Worth your money and the time it takes to read...great for couples!

Margaret Cho isn't kidding. This really might be the best book about sex, ever. The book discusses techniques, sexual ethics, and attitude: sex as a whole. It's warm, well-written, intelligent, informative. Above all, although it is frank and completely straightforward, it is written with an awareness of the fact that not everybody... well, almost nobody... is completely secure about sex. It neither condescends nor intimidates; it accepts our foibles and anxieties while gently but firmly showing us that there's a better way. I can't imagine anyone, from a veteran swinger to a virgin, who wouldn't get something of value from it, with just a modicum of openmindedness.

I highly recommend this book to anyone who wants to accomplish the following: 1. Improve his or her sexlife. 2. Look at sex from a different perspective other than what has been traditionally taught 3. Find new ways to overlook common mistakes we all make in our private lives. 4. Find the inspiration to be a little more adventurous behind closed doors. I find the psychology of sex very interesting in the United States. Here, we all try to keep it hush hush, even pass the occassional law against it, but everyone seems to be doing it and everyone seems to want more of it and a better way to do it. This book is an excellent beginning in breaking out of that old mold and moving on with our personal lives. We owe it to ourselves, our partners, and our significant others to be the best we can be and to have an ever open mind. This book is a step in that direction. James

In my chosen field of Architecture we use what exists to create new facilities. In this book, noted Sexual Expert Nina Hartley does a similar construct in a loving funny and first person way. All of us have sexual portions of our bodies, want to have sex and most of us with another person. As Nina explains "It feels good, It is good for you, It helps your interaction with the opposite sex who you wish to create a bond". This book is a much better education tool than anything even going back to the "Joy of Sex" from the 70s. Why? First, Nina constantly uses her own experience as a sexual person with both men and women, she is bi,to describe what feels good and what may not feel so good. Second, Nina explains the physical espects of how to be sexual first with yourself and then with a partner. Self loving it is called, and all of us need to love ourselves before we love others, she explains. During all of the chapters in the book her physical explanations, she does not need any diagrams or pictures, she allows the reader to feel that he or she is in an encounter. Nina uses a very easily understood method to illustrate, "Near hand and far hand". Third, Nina both touches on sexual practices that not everyone will use but all of us have an interest in hearing about. We may not want to use Anal Sex or jSwinging, but at least we need to know what happens, why and how it is performed and how one does meet others of a similar persuasion. Fourth, Nina explains as no one ever has, that mens and womens sexual anatomy, developed during pregnancy are the same to begin with. We all were girls first and then during pregnancy developed fully into male and female persons. I will not spoil that she says, but the portions of chapters dealing with this issue alone make this book worth buying. Fifth, and most important. Both men and women have a most important sex organ, their brains. Nina in each phase explains the cultural reasons, the mental reasons and the psycological reasons why we both want to engage in sex and why we at the same time fear sex. Nina allows us all to make decisions about each of us are comrtable with. As she explains some of us do not like to engage in certain practices. That is fine she says, but she also says, talk it out. Only then can we agree on what we want to provide for each other and ourselves, sexually. Nina, thus allowsus to loose our fear about sex. Every man and every women should buy a copy as part of their sexual and marital preparations. Better yet, after buying they should read this book to each other. Nina who has a bent for humor, especially in the titles, makes this book easy to read, non scarey and a wonderful practical tool to help every person understand not only how to have sex but also why we want to.

Nina Hartley 's "Guide to Total Sex" may make you blush with her naked honesty and hot sexy tips like how to give yourself the most amazing "abs" and it doesn't involve the gym but ulimately she encourages self acceptance, compassion, love and self awareness; also understanding "outside factors" that can create road blocks to being true to yourself and your desires. An excerpt from her last paragraph of her book with co-writer I.S. Levine sums up the spirituality, sexual awarenss and self empowerment. Nina Hartley writes, "I invite each and every one of you to join me on my journey of exploration, to go forward in your search for your authentic sexuality without fear. The best, most relevant book you will ever read on the subject is the one you write yourself, the inner diary of your own experience as a sexual human being...." Nina has exceptional sex tips and a heart to match....Heart on 5 stars recommendation! She suggests you skip the chapters that are not your thing but believe me the book has a wide range of categories, knowledge shared and wisdom. There is something for everybody . Yes, you blush but you get a raise --- in sexual IQ points!