Navigating the Dark Side of Wealth: A Life Guide for Inheritors

I couldn't put this book down while reading it on the airplane. It's frank and to the point, yet gentle and hopeful; it offers practical and common sense suggestions to inheritors of great wealth; and it's written by someone who herself was an inheritor of great wealth. Thayer Willis has the unique gift of blending her personal story with the stories of other "real people" who sit in her office on a daily basis and share with her their heartfelt fears, disillusionment, and hopelessness that often plagues them (inheritors). She offers some very practical and positive guidance to inheritors who deal with the issues of the "dark side of wealth". As a financial planner, I'd say this is a must read if you are working with high net worth families and their children. You will catch a glimpse of the myriad of issues that face wealthy families now, and that will be facing those families' future generations. Also, by being more aware of these issues, you can help bring inherent value to your clients by letting them know of the availability and the genuine hope that a good "wealth counselor" can bring...and Thayer Willis is one of the few leading the charge.

In over forty years of working with and counseling persons of unusual wealth (millionaires and beyond) Navigating the Dark Side of Wealth appears out of the blue at this most critical hour in world economic history.There have been other outstanding books for the rich across the years such as Amy Domini's The Challenges of Wealth, Robert Wuthnow's God and Mammon in America, and The Crisis in the Churches: Spiritual Malaise, Fiscal Woe. But none that are as inspiring and practically helpful in my opinion.This book written by a professionally trained psychotherapist who just happens to write very personally from her experience of being from a very wealthy family and a co-owner of a major Fortune 500 corporation stands to be a classic in the field, if there ever was one.While written for persons of inherited wealth, this book provides great help and hope for all who are affluent.Donald McClanenFounder and former Director of Ministry of MoneyFounder and Director of Harvest Time programs for the wealthy(See Barron's September 18, 2000)

As a Psychologist who deals with people having the issues and difficulties described so well by Ms. Willis, I am grateful and delighted that this book has come out. The case stories are engaging, and are excellent depictions of the surprisingly difficult world of inherited and sudden wealth. The material in this book is accurate, fascinating, and important. On top of that, it's a good read. I know of no better source.

Money really can't buy happiness, and Thayer Willis has the courage to confront this cultural myth head on. She is an inheritor... and in her book she speaks from her heart about the very real problems that inheritors face. She is also a professional counselor and in that capacity she speaks from her mind... offering some very practical solutions to these problems. I particularly like how she will tell a story and then give her "Professional Observations". This book is written from the perspective of someone who has actually been there (done that), and who knows that sometimes money can do more harm than good. In my business I have the opportunity to work with wealthy families, and I can tell you that the problems Ms. Willis describes are very real, and very debilitating for many inheritors. I would highly recommend this book to professionals who work with wealthy families (in fact, I gave my original copy of this book to a financial planner)... to those who have created wealth (so that they can better understand how their wealth might impact their children)... and for those who have inherited wealth (you are not alone). I would not recommend this book to anyone who believes the cultural myth, that the road to happiness is paved with winning Powerball tickets.

This is a book for anyone who has to deal with the challenges of wealth, but it is especially for the rich who either have inherited large amounts of wealth or expect to pass such wealth on to their children. It is written in a clear, compelling, easy style. In it, Thayer Cheatham Willis, who is both an accomplished psychotherapist and an inheritor of substantial wealth herself, shares both her own very personal experiences dealing with the pitfalls of her inheritance and her professional observations of the many patients she has treated for problems related to inherited wealth.Most people who are not acquainted with the realities of being wealthy imagine that it is an idyllic condition. But, as Ms Willis came to realize, when she learned of the fifth suicide among her peers from the beautiful, sheltered neighborhood of her childhood, wealth does indeed have its dark side. The patients she describes suffer from guilt, poor self-esteem and problems with interpersonal relationships, as well as lack of a sense of drive, purpose, motivation to be productive and the discipline to stick to goals and accomplish what they set out to do. Happiness, for many of them is elusive despite the fact that inheritors may have a sense of entitlement. The fact that they can afford to have whatever they want, without having to struggle to earn it, may rob them of the challenges which foster healthy personal development in others. Because of the envy and resentment they encounter when they do reveal their circumstances, it is also difficult for many wealthy people to develop and sustain relationships with others, especially those not of similar financial status. Ms Willis' book is filled with excellent advice on a variety of subjects including the importance of becoming aware of values, finding purpose, achieving discipline, pursuing (and completing) education, and providing good parenting for children who will someday become inheritors. She also gives advice, about what one should do to achieve financial acumen, for those who do not come to their inheritance having learned the in and outs of managing, or overseeing the management of their wealth. Another chapter provides a basic introduction to estate planning and the variety of techniques that can be used to preserve and pass on wealth. Perhaps the two most important chapters are on the need to work and on relationships. With regard to the former she points out that, "People who don't work become shallow, bored, boring wastelands." What is clearly implied, but not spelled out, is that self esteem is based largely on the feeling that one has developed his or her potential and has something of value to share with others. This chapter focuses on the very real obstacles and challenges faced by inheritors who do not need to work for money and, so, are deprived of financial need as a motivator. There are different challenges for sons and daughters of fathers who have made great fortunes. The former, she points out, feel