Beyond the Myth of Marital Happiness
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Book Overview
According to psychologist Blaine Fowers, the myth of marital happiness-that good communication, emotional gratification, and intimacy result in a healthy relationship-has made marriages more fragile than ever before and we must let it go. Does this mean that we should give up on love, satisfaction, intimacy, emotional support, good communication, and good sex in marriage? That marriage must be continued solely on the basis of grim commitment? That no one should divorce? Not at all. Instead, Dr. Fowers shows how we can re-envision marriage as a wonderful opportunity to practice the virtues of friendship, loyalty, generosity, and justice in the shared pursuit of our deepest ideals.
Format:Paperback
Language:English
ISBN:0787945676
ISBN13:9780787945671
Release Date:August 2000
Publisher:Jossey-Bass
Length:256 Pages
Weight:0.99 lbs.
Dimensions:0.8" x 5.9" x 9.0"
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Thought Provoking and Wise
Published by Thriftbooks.com User , 22 years ago
This book resonates truth like no other marriage book I've read (and I've read many). Marriages haven't worked in our culture because we have made feelings the primary judge of their quality. How liberating it is to realize that marriage is so much bigger, so much more valuable than any fickle feelings either individual might have. This book has completely changed my perspective and my marriage. I recommend this book to anyone who loves his/her spouse but feels generally unfulfilled or disappointed with marriage.
A Less Romantic, More Functional Angle
Published by Thriftbooks.com User , 24 years ago
This is the first relationship book I've read that approaches the popular view of marriage as cultural myth. Our myth says that two people meet, "fall in love", then marry based on this feeling, and with the anticipation of marriage being basically a happy extension of dating, forever. With this unrealistic view of marriage, it's not surprising so few marriages last.Dr. Fowers sees successful marriage as more than two people's ability to make each other happy. He sees marriage as a partnership where two people practice being their best selves, and work together for some worthy cause such as raising children well, promoting a cause, or supporting the arts. The book states that the four virtues necessary for a good marriage are friendship, loyalty, generosity, and justice. He defines each in detail. He goes beyond "good communication skills" as a foundation for a solid marriage. It's not as fun to read about a working partnership as it is to anticipate lifelong emotional bliss, but this view of marriage seems much more realistic and workable. He barely touches on why we choose the person we do, and sex is barely mentioned at all, again distinguishing this book from most others in the genre.
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