Mr. Right is Out There: The Gay Man's Guide to Finding and Maintaining Love

Great book... who knew most gay men suffered from internalized homophobia??? It reinforces some of things from Joe Korts (Ten Smart Things Gay Men Can Do To Improve Their Life) It's definatley worth reading!

As a MFT in California I have found that the information contained in this book is the most encompassing collection of good useful advice that I have ever found. He touches on so many things that are important to gay male relationships. His advice is helpful and complete. I found the checklists and exercises easy and helpful. This book can really orient you to successful relationships.

I found Dr. George's book extraordinarily helpful and insightful. One of the aspects of this book which has earned my regard is the honesty and openness of his discussion. Particularly, his primary focus is doing the personal reflection and work on becoming ready for a relationship with another man. This is not a book about tips and hints and methods to attract men, but about creating a healthy mentality about relationships and emotional intimacy. He outlines several excises to help individuals think about and outline their own attitudes, opinions, and feelings. While some individuals with a great deal of relationship experience may find this book pedestrian, for the person who is struggling to build new relationships, even friendships, it is a supportive and hopeful tool.

For one, when I read a book and it changes my life I want to pass it on to my friends. If that is any inclination how this book possessed me, you should know that I have bought 5 other copies for friends.This book is beyond what words on this screen can say. Words that fit; Enlightening, Challenging, and Comprehensive. Not only will you reinvent yourself but you can completely outline what it is that you are looking for, in a healthy relationship. Being broken up recently from a relationship, that I should not have been in, this book helped me realize that the person I was with was Mr. Wrong and the only thing standing in my way from meeting Mr. Right, was myself...and the fact that I did not want to let go.Please take the time and read this book. It will help you... This is not only for the single crew, if you are in a relationship it will make you evaluate whether or not you are with the right person. I would love to recommend this book to anyone I date prior to officially starting the dating process...:-)

-How do you find him? This is a difficult question for many people, but especially so for most gay men. The author, Dr. (Professor) Kenneth D. George starts by telling the reader not to internalize society's homophobic messages that gays are "sick, deviant or abnormal". Gay men are entitled, in fact, empowered to have a workable LOVING relationship with another gay man. As Marianne Williamson says in her new book, Enchanted Love, we must "Prepare to BE the beloved". As a gay doctor writing for gay men, Dr. George gives expert advice on doing the real work of discovering who we are, and what our strengths and weaknesses are before venturing on to discover "Mr. Right". In a step by step, easy to understand plan (with DO-ABLE exercises and activities), Dr. George leads the reader through the mostly NOT so painful process of discovering what he needs to know about himself before he can enter into a LOVING RELATIONSHIP with another gay man.This is not a sex manual, although there is a chapter the reader will not want to miss --- on sex. Using actual people, the author explores the entire spectrum of the "do's and don'ts" of gay relationships. With chapters such as "Being Emotionally Intimate", "Becoming a Male Couple" and "Negotiating and Resolving Differences", be prepared to be challenged. If you are a younger gay man, this book will guide you in getting started on the right foot. If you are a mature gay man (what can I say?), then this book will help you see just what you might do differently as you FIND "Mr. Right". There is little room for failure here. Dr. Kenneth D. George is a professor at the University of Pennsylvania and runs a private practice in psychotherapy, working with gay single men and gay couples. It has taken many years for him to write this little book. He's been busy finding his own Mr. Right. He and his partner, Christopher Beck (an artist) have found each other. They celebrated their tenth wedding anniversary by enjoying a cruise on the Queen Elizabeth II --- a GAY cruise. In their vows to each other ...well, I'll let you read that for yourself.Charlie Perkins