Mothers Day Ov: Connie Ha

When I first read this book decades ago, I knew immediately that this woman was right about motherhood. I did have one child, who is now grown and turned out very well, but the experience was eerily and exactly what this book predicted. I must have read hundreds of books on parenthood while I was struggling with it in the day-to-day, but it's telling that after nearly 30 years, this is *only* one I remember--for its truthfulness. It's shameful this is out of print now; it ought to be required reading for all young girls.

I was 20 when I read this book and it scared me so bad that I put off having children until I was 37. Finally I started trying only to find out that I was infertile. I am now 42 and have 2 adopted children from China that are the joy of my life. I urge women reading this to consider that some decisions are irrevocable and just because the stars have kids at 48 doesn't mean that YOU will be able to without spending a king's ransom on dangerous fertility treatments.

I read this work a year or so ago, and have never forgotten about it. I am searching for copies for every mother I know, it was that good. It made me laugh, cry, and feel not so alone in resenting my children at times. It is the most realistic portrayal of MY motherhood experiences I have ever read. If, at times you feel guilty and not up to the demands of motherhood, this book is for you.

I read this book when I was feeling stressed out over Motherhood. (I was a very young Mom with two children) That was over 15 years ago and I still remember so much about this book. The author makes the point that being a mother is not all sweetness and lace - but self-sacrifice and more self-sacrifice. She makes a good point - that Motherhood is not for everyone. It is a decision that should be made carefully and thoughtfully and no one should ever be pressured into having a child.Around this same time, Ann Lander's survey came out - where she asked her readers - "If you could do it all over again, would you have children?" And a large majority said "NO!". This book explains the reasons some folks regret having children.