Mixed Blessings: Overcoming the Stumbling Blocks in an Interfaith Marriage

I hesitated to read this book because it was published in '89. I wish I wouldn't have waited. Many reviewers have felt there was a strong bias, however I felt that they were clearly writing from their experience working with other interfaith couple. And, the truth is that if you are totally immersed in your religion you would not have chosen a partner of another faith. The Cowan's also state that because they chose a Jewish home their view point is a bit skewed. The topics discussed in this book are meant to make couples aware of the possible stumbling blocks that could occur. (Note the title) My husband and I celebrate our differences, but it is always great to be aware of possible problems before they happen. A must read for any Jewish/christian home.

The book is very informative, as the authors describe their personal experiences with interfaith relationships. They were themselves an interfaith couple and they recount how they dealt with the problems that eventually arose in their relationship and how they came to work with other couples in the same situation. Great interviews with other couples and with children of interfaith relationship describing their own experiences. Definitely a MUST READ!!

Before I had even finished the second chapter, I was forced to examine the nature of my Jewishness, what it means to me, what role it plays in my life, and what role I wanted it to play. I didn't want to put the book down! I couldn't wait to see what further revelations were in store for me. Mixed Blessings provides a context in which couples can explore their deeply-ingrained beliefs and attitudes. In this way, it can help people in interfaith relationships to determine their own cultural, spiritual, and religious identities, and to better understand the complex origins of their conflict.

This book allows someone to become very sensitive to the differences between Jews and Christians. As well it helps the reader understand why some people behave the way they do..most importantly what is motivating people's behavior. I felt so informed after I finished Mixed Blessings. A definite "must" for anyone in an Jewish/Christian relationship as well as their family members.

If you are in an interfaith relationship, or you know someone who is, BUY THIS BOOK. The Cowans write from the perspective of a couple that has been there, and offers objective case studies and sensible advice on avoiding the "time bombs" inherent in these relationships.