Men's Secret Wars

This book is a real eye opener. I recommend it highly. As good as it is, any book, in my opinion, can really only be a good door. This book as well as other factors, has led to family counseling which is literally, by the grace of God, saving our marriage and family.

I would have to ask why someone is so adamant that phychotherapy is the key; when I know many people who spent many $$ could attest that it is useless. Somehow I have a hard time thinking that going to 'even an atheist' phychotherapist could be a good idea; let's go get the spiritual man healed by someone who denies the Master Healer - good idea?? Or let's spend 100's of hours and thousands of $$ dissecting the old nature when were simply supposed to crucify it through faith. Maybe the most benefit generally belongs to the phychotherapists coffer.

Patrick Means sees the male heart with truth, grace, and passion. Means speaks from experience about work, women, sex, and an authentic "Romans Chapter 7" relationship with God. This book is not a "mountain top" experience. However, if you have experience with "Men's work," you will be pleasantly surprised. He draws in the man that goes to church and has chosen to be disconnected from feelings, relationships, and other men. He also addresses those of us who have gone outside the church for truth and grace(Warrior Weekends, Mens groups, and other initiatory experiences).If you want to take a Christ centered journey with your shadow, read Means.

Patrick Means treds where the average Christian man has been trained not to go. Through frank testimony of personal moral failure, repentance, and redemption he allows the rest of us to see where the spiritual land mines are BEFORE we must cross the field.Christian men have become accustomed to hearing impotent "just pray about it" advice for their struggles. We've learned to act as though everything is OK when inside we've been dying.Means exposes the facade of modern Christian man for what it is -- a seemingly solid covering for a cancer of unresolved pain beneath. By honestly sharing his trials and temptations he catalogs his own journey to wholeness, while at the same time offering practical, solid advice for how we can do the same.Come into your own as the man God created you to be -- don't settle for second best when an incredible blessing awaits. Men who are vulnerable, sharing their hurts with other men, are the true heroes of this world and the next.Read the book! There's a new you inside.

I've read nearly a hundred books around the topic of personal growth and this by far is the most valuable resource I've come across. It's worth every dime you'd throw at a therapist trying to get this information. Change your life. Read this one men!