Loving Someone Gay

This was the first book I read when I was coming out. I learned that the "someone" I needed to learn to love was me. This book taught me how. I wrote the author in gratitude, and years later, still recommend this book to people just coming out, as well as to people just discovering a friend or loved one is Gay.

I FOUND IT MOST HELPFUL AND INFORMATIVE IN UNDERSTANDING WHAT IT MEANS TO BE GAY. I HAVE SHARED IT WITH OTHER FAMILY MEMBERS.

This was my gay bible in the 1980's when I came out of the closet. A friend gave me this book which was in it's first printing. I was so frightened and needed something that came from a positive voice of authority and was gay affirmative! Don Clark was that voice for me and it is nice to see it has been revised and re-issued and still around. Thank you Don!

I'm very pleased to finally have the chance to thank Don Clark publicly for a book that literally changed my life. "Loving Someone Gay" was one of the first books I read in those dark days before I came out of the closet -- and it was one of the precious few _positive_ gay books in publication at the time (the other notable standout being "Lesbian/Woman" by Del Martin and Phyllis Lyon). The message of "Loving Someone Gay" is simply this: You are a whole and good human being. Period. The book stands up as well today as it did decades ago, and should be required reading for every gay and lesbian person suffering from that initial, sickening feeling of self-loathing drilled into us by a society that that tries to shame us back into the closet through fear and supersition. Today, there are many other books to help lesbians and gay men conquer self-internalized homophobia, and most take into account issues that didn't even exist when "Loving Someone Gay" was first published -- and so I would recommend this as a better primer for heterosexual family and friends. It is no-nonsense, but gentle enough for our hetero loved ones with fragile constitutions, or easily-overloaded circuits. Side note: One reviewer who seems to think this is some sort of gay sex manual that will "rock your gay partner's world" must be thinking of some other book.

(...) this book is not a sex guide. Rather, "Loving Someone Gay" is a heartfelt look into the psychology of gay men and women. It shares their experiences, feelings, and needs through stories and expert observation. It's a sensitively written glimpse into the gay mind, and I highly recommend it to any gay person--or the loved ones of a gay person--that would like to better understand his or herself.