Love Tactics: How to Win the One You Want

People under 30 might think of this book as "The Art of 'The Game'". For those over 30 or not so well versed in slang, Love Tactics gives step-by-step, (or more accurately point-by-point) practical, and duplicatable advice to becoming more successful in dating. However, don't be fooled by my simplification above . The book does not espouse that people need to "play games" in dating in order to be successful. In fact, it opens by explaining that a successful relationship must have respect, passion, and love. Then it goes on to explain how all 3 of those things can be achieved! The book is clearly written. It is niether a dry textbook nor a rambling manifesto. Information is easy to find. One of the best things I like about the book is the fact that the key points are headlined and a reader could improve their "tactics" by simply reading the headlined points, yet, for those of us who want to truly understand the process behind the tactics, each headline is then broken down into important points. The authors actually make reasonable explanations to accompany each headline. Here is an example of how the 2nd chapter is broken-down: ## = my analytical note ---------- Title: Acting With Self-Assurance Principle: People are most readily drawn to those who radiate a positive self-image. Intro - Vibes: An explanation of the phenomenae of "vibes" and how that relates to potential success in dating ## How often have you heard or said "I like their vibe" or "he/she just doesn't have a good vibe"? Headlines 1. Be Nice to Yourself - Give yourself credit ## As a perfectionist, I found this an especially good reminder 2. Identify Your Goals a. Decide what you want. b. Write down your goals. c. Know your priorities d. Attach a timeframe e. Break your goals down into daily tasks 3. Relax ## A challenge many daters encounter. While the book obviously can't tell you how to relax, it gives a good perspective and also good reasoning as to why you should try 4. Talk with confidence - Starting A Conversation - Conversation Anxieties - What to Say - Small Talk - "Bigger" Talk - Conversation Summary 5. Know What You Want In A Prospective Mate 6. Plan Out Where To Meet Others - On The Job - Special Interest Groups - Referrals Through Friends - The Singles Scene - Meeting Online ** The ABCs of Developing Internet Prospects a. E-mail b. Online chats c. Phone conversations d. Face-to-face meetings ## Not only does this part show that the authors are up-to-date on dating, but it also defines a clear process. As someone who has met and dated people I have met online, I personally discovered this process to be successful some time ago. That being said, I can say that the authors' ideas are accurate. So if you are interested in meeting someone online, it's usually best not to try to go straight from emails / notes to immediately trying to meet in person. Closing and Summary: - A Word (or Two) To The Shy - Some Final Thoughts ------------------ That is only the 2n

First a caveat, no book or skill set can make everyone fall in love with you or turn you into Don Juan or Helen of Troy if you look like Quasimodo. If you are of average or above looks this book will help you keep the one you want. The authors break down a successful relationship into its constituent parts. They are friendship, respect and passion. The first two parts are about becoming a better person who can attract people to them. If you're a good solid friend whom people become emotionally dependant upon for support, you will attract people. The second part is about earning and keeping respect from other people. Ask yourself if you would want to be with a clingy desperate person with no self-confidence or self-esteem who can barely tie their shoelaces by themselves. So don't be one yourself. This book shows you how. The third part about creating passion is the controversial part. You do this through the scarcity principle. Passion is created by Hope and Doubt. This means you play easy to lose and is slightly different than playing hard to get. Playing hard to get short-circuits the hope that a person can get you and creates disinterest. Easy to lose creates the doubt that causes a person to constantly think about you. If you don't create the passion you will hear the phrase you're a nice guy/girl but... over and over again. The only weak spot is that the book is silent on shared values. This may be because those are set hard and you just have to look for and find the person who shares the same types of dreams, values and yes sense of humor as you do by seeing a number of people. This book will lead you through the rest and is why I give it my highest rating. Additional books that are helpful in this area are Superflirt by Tracy Cox, Romance the (woman/man) you want by Lucy Sanna and Conversationally Speaking by Alan Garner.

I am a professional therapist and I can say without doubt I have made more money using the techniques in this book than any other. Simple to understand yet powerful in what they produce. If you are looking for a book that cuts through all the extra and gives you page after page of just the good stuff, then this is the one. If you do what they suggest it will take a while (more than 2 weeks), but I have seen first hand the results in many of my single clients!

I have not read this book for almost ten years, but I recently referred it to an internet friend having trouble in her relationship. I too wanted to marry my boyfriend who was not of the same mind. We broke up and he was with another woman for about six weeks.I swore I would never resort to such games, but, I thought... one last shot. I really loved him. I followed the book. I guess he really loved me too, but, he just didn't know it at the time. We have been happily married for nine years this September. This love has survived despite all odds ( financial problems and the Brady Bunch (combined family). The passion is still there and we have a really good bond. We were honest with each other. I also prayed to God to do what would make him happy and I didn't want him if it wasn't right for him as well. I dont remember the first one or two chapters being particularly useful for me but the majority of the book was right on target.So, to the person who thought it was only for lust not love...you were wrong. I am as crazy about him to day as I was then. One of our children is getting married this year and I hope that they will be as close and committed as us. BUY THE BOOK

I first read this book several years ago during what turned out to be a failed relationship. I've read and re-read this book and realized my mistakes. I didn't follow all the principles and I got burned. I've learned from my mistakes and am using the principles (all of them!) in a new relationship that is working out just fine! I recommend this book to anyone who wants to find and create love with a certain someone.