Love Matters: A Book of Lesbian Romance and Relationships

I love this book and I'm not a lesbian. In fact, I'm not even a woman. But I am in a relationship, and that's what this book is about. Linda Sutton is wise, gentle, supportive, upbeat. Most of all, she shares herself as a living, breathing person, frequently offering her own experiences as vivid illustrations of her ideas. She even gives her partner and her daughter opportunities to make observations and suggestions of their own. All three have distinctive voices and personalities. She offers down-to-earth advice and even measuring tools. For example, she introduces the intriguing concept of a "good enough relationship" and makes a convincing case for the value of a good cathartic fight once in a while. In a section called "Busyness," she writes that she and her partner "don't find time for our relationship so much as we make time." That one has really stuck with me.The letters and responses are seasoned with wonderful quotes, poems, and--amazingly--beautiful color illustrations. My wife and I both read this book, and it has already strengthened our relationship.

After reading Love Matters I was ready and willing to take a deeper look at all aspects of all of my relationships, and I am a heterosexual! Sutton has gone deep into her life work, exposing all aspects of her relationships. I have great respect for Sutton, and her partner Maureen, for taking the risk in the hopes of opening the hearts of lesbians and all others who want more fulfilling relationships. It has been a long time since I have even read a "relationship" book cover to cover- I couldn't put this one down! Thank you, Ms. Sutton, for the funny, insightful book. Consider your advice taken.