During my first long term relationship, I took to the study of love trying to learn everything that would make me successful in my relationship. I surveyed all the leading books on love and was not impressed with what I found. I found texts on 'selfless' love which prescribed sacrificing on the other's behalf in order to have true love. I also found texts on 'pickup' that presuppose that there is no true love and that perpetual dating is the model...