Love and Limerence: The Experience of Being in Love

Excellent research.The book deals with the subject in an entirely new way."Love and Limerence" must be a classic in the psychology of emotions. The most important book on the subject of romantic love. --------------------------------------------------------------------------------

What a wealth of information Dorothy Tennov offers. What a resource for those who become love obsessed with one particular person. Apparently it is not all of us. Some of us become "limerant" (her name for being "in love") and some of us never do. Some of us are limerant sometimes and other times not. It is key to know that the condition is NOT LOVE. That it is INVOLUNTARY, that it is NORMAL, that it has existed since the beginning of history, that there are probably EVOLUTIONARY REASONS for it, that there are TRIGGERS which set it in motion, that "sufferers", are legion, that practically nothing is known about preventing it, or ending it at will. Ouch!

This book explained what happened to me numerous times when meeting different women to whom I was very attracted. I discovered that I could control the degree into which I became "limerent" by the messages I told myself about the other person. It helped me to conclude that emotional responses by human beings are created by the self talk we do. As a result of reading this book, discussing it's premise with others, and sharing it with friends, I have found a wonderful relationship with a person who cares for me in the same way I care for her. It's a mature, deep friendship spiced by delightful suprises. For an easy reading, helpful, yet scientific look at attractive relationships, you can't do better than this book.

From the press kit: TEN REASONS for reading Love and Limerence 1. There's someone you can't stop thinking about.2. It baffles you that your lovers find you cold and unloving.3. Sometimes people you hardly know and do not particularly care for give you a creepy kind of inappropriate and excessive attention.4. Your spouse left you for another.5. Your best friend seems to have forgotten you.6. Your daughter spent the last three days in her bed weeping constantly and refusing to eat.7. Your son quit college to marry his girlfriend.8. A friend committed suicide.9. A formerly promising employee spends most of his time at the water cooler.10. At a summit meeting, your president is distracted.