Live, Laugh, Love Again: A Christian Woman's Guide to Surviving Divorce

I would have never suspected my husband to be capable of cheating on me, not even to the slightest degree. When I found out he was having a full-blown affair, I was shocked. I separated from my unfaithful husband. I was very pregnant and still reeling from the initial shock of his infidelities. After some couples and individual counseling, I realized reconciliation was not an option (there were multiple offenses, multiple women, and a lack of effort from my husband to heal our relationship). I filed for divorce and am slowly but surely trying to recover from the loss. Life certainly threw me a curve ball, but I have an amazing support system around me, and will eventually get through this. I was interested in any books that addressed the issue of separation/divorce in the wake of infidelity. Up to that point the only Christian books I was able to find leaned heavily towards reconciliation. Since that was not an option for me, I was left feeling forlorn and hopeless to find something I could connect with. I was stuck in a very difficult position - not wanting my marriage to end, but having no other choice but to separate from a man with a serious sexual addiction. Even having Biblical reasons to leave didn't make it any easier. This was one of two books that have truly helped me on my path to recovery. They are written by amazing Christian women. They offer hope to women facing the end of marriages (that they never wanted to end). It was like a breath of fresh air - being able to read their testimonies and know that I was not alone in my feelings and reactions to my divorce. Their candid advice and encouragement was exactly what I needed. These books certainly appeal to any woman left standing alone wondering what happened to the husband she thought she married. When He Leaves, by Kari West and Noelle Quinn Live, Laugh, Love Again, by Michelle Borquez, Connie Wetzell, Rosalind Sparks-Seay, and Carla Sue Nelson.

By the end of the book, I felt like I was one of the gang with Michelle, Connie, Rosalind and Carla. These women tell it like it is, with a sense of humor so desperately needed in a time of trouble and pain. Some of the sharing is so hilarious that I found myself nodding my head and wiping my eyes, from laughing so hard. Being a Christian woman myself, I was unsure how to treat my soon to be ex-husband, what to do with the confused, sad and angry feelings that I felt after being "dumped" after 17 years. I also didn't know what to do with the new girlfriend. I found answers in this book. Perhaps the biggest enlightenment was the fact that the ex didn't walk away free and easy, that his conscience will trouble him from now on and that how he deals with his leaving our family is between him and God, and no longer my problem! Amazingly, after identifying with these women and no longer feeling alone, I was able to process my feelings and move to forgiveness and even a bit of pity. (The girlfriend dumped him shortly after that - which did help.) I am employed after years of being a stay-at-home Mom, closer to God than I have been in a long time and feeling positive and free. Sometimes it takes time away to recognize the cloud you have lived under for years and that life is truly full of joy. This book helped turn my head around! My personal experience is that now my ex wants to stop the divorce and reunite the family. I have had a clear message from the Holy Spirit that I am NOT to do this - at least at this time. (It would just continue to be more of the same thing.) So, from fighting the divorce initially, I am now the one who desires freedom and who allows Jesus to be my husband. I am no longer alone. I would highly recommend this book.

As I struggled to live through a divorce that I did not want I tried to find books that would comfort me and make me feel like I was not alone. This book did just that. It is a wonderful read and brings hope when you feel all hope is lost. I would recommend this to any woman who is going through a divorce, especially one that they do not want. These four women made me feel that I can survive this and one day learn to live, laugh and love again.

Through laughing and tears, this book spoke to my soul. For the first time in two years, I am encouraged that I will Live, Laugh, and Love Again. These women put a healing balm on my outlook. It's a must for the divorced -- at every stage of the struggle.

I just LOVED reading this book. Most books I found on divorce and unfaithfulness were all about working through and keeping the marriage intact. When my husband had no desire for that to happen, I only felt like more of a failure because I couldn't even make that happen. This book deals with four women whose marriages did not make it and ended with divorce. They share honestly and openly and sometime humorously about each of their lives. It was helpful to know that all the things my husband said to me and how he acted were also occurring in other womens lives. I didn't feel as bad knowing that I wasn't the only one who had my husband say those hurtful things to me.....there's a whole bunch of other men out there who came up with the same excuses and hurtful lies to put the blame all on their wives. And the biggest bonus of all, is they ALL relied on God to get them through this situation. This book was very, very well worth it!