Light Her Fire: How to Ignite Passion, Joy, and Excitement in the Women You Love

Heard the taped version of Ellen Kreidman's LIGHT HER FIRE and got a lot of useful advice from it (or at least I hope it is useful advice? laughing here--somewhat) . . . Kreidman, also author of the best-selling LIGHT HIS FIRE, presents many ideas about how to have a passionate, fun, exciting relationship . . . most if not all of what she writes seems to make a great deal of sense, and I believe it can apply to other situations as well; e.g., basic communication with friends, coworkers, children, etc. Here were just a few of the many concepts that caught my attention:We all have 10 vaults and 10 virtues.When asked if you want to do something (such as go to the movies),don't just say "OK." Respond, I'd love to go the movies with you!Send personal notes, rather than preprinted greeting cards.Ask what the other person wants and give it to her. If she tells youwithout asking, make sure you note it!Very romantic: A guy who has roses pout on his wife's bed for their35th anniversary. (He has the thorns removed.) He tells her, "I've always wanted to make love to you on a bed of roses."Once a week, make a date night. Every three months, go away for a weekend. Once a year, take a vacation with your spouse orsignificant other.Women need something to look forward to; e.g., a trip in six weeks.For men, it doesn't matter as much.Plan a special evening at least once every few months. Tell yourpartner that everything has been taken care of by you.Give kids a hug whenever you get the chance. Kiss your partnerlike you mean it; i.e., a 7-second kiss.Don't ask, "What are you doing on Saturday?' Instead say, "I'dlike to go out with you Saturday night . . . are you busy?" Use"I" statements.If you're together, hold your partner's hand, give her a kiss, putyour arm around her shoulder. Show the world you enjoy being alone with her.Schedule a lunch date, and tell your partner you're putting it inyour book.Send a no occasion gift of flowers to her office.Compliment your mate in front of another couple. It has three timesthe impact this way.

Ellen really does a wonderful job explaining to women to men here. Everything that you read strikes you in a "Well, duh!" type of way, but it often stuff you never thought of on your own. This to me is the essence of good explanations. It SHOULD seem like common sense.The book reads quickly, with lots of examples to illustrate her points. Ellen Kriedman has done all men a service here.

This is one of the greatest books I have ever read on relationships. I recommend it to every man, whether you are single, married, separated, or whatever. If you are single and afraid to start a relationship, you might want to read "Single no More" in addition to this book to give you more confidence. But this book is one of those common-sense books; no heavy philosophy, no BS, just the good stuff. Plus, you should be able to read this book in only a few hours. This book is just as actual as it was 10 years ago when it first came out!

The book was eye opening in the way it taught me to understand women so much better. I really did not know that I knew so little. With the guidance of this book my relationship is slowly repairing itself. I can easily see and feel the difference in my wife and our relationship.

If you buy one book on relationships, this needs to be the one. I was impressed with the reviews here but it wasn't till I read the book myself that I realized what an incredible treasure it really is. Gentleman, if you really want to be all the man you can be for the love of you life please read this book. There are no magic tricks or special formulas that Ellen teaches, other than good old fashion sense that everyone should know but some how we usually don't. No matter what the state your relationship is currently in, no matter how bad or how good, I give you my word, this book can make it better. Hands down, no questions asked. She not only teaches you how to become the dream guy that all women long for, but how to really understand women's needs. I have always said that if a guy could understand women than he would be rich. Well here you go. The first 20 pages alone are worth a hundred times the price. I am not much of a spender but it was so cheap, I figured why not. Now that I understand its contents I also understand that you can not afford to not get this book. And if you are single, do yourself a favor and get a head start. That special woman will never know what hit her when she finds you. This book is a guide, a revelation, and a counselor. Enjoy, and become the most sought after guy in your city.