Lasting Love: The 5 Secrets of Growing a Vital, Conscious Relationship

This outstanding author continues to guide us to a more perfect concious life.

This is a wonderful book for any one in a relationship -- that is, any one at all, because even if we're not partnered, we have relationships with others -- family, friends, co-workers. The authors tell us that there are 5 "secrets" to having positive, healthy relationships -- commitment, emotional transparency, sharing responsiblity (not indulging in "it's your fault, not mine"), creative individuation, and appreciation. Their writing is simple but not simplistic. Their suggestions make a lot of sense -- I had a lot of "Wow! Of course!" moments in reading the book. In the section on commitment, for example, they show how often we are committed to the very opposite of what we think we are -- the unconscious commitment as opposed to the conscious one. If we want to have a conflict-free relationship, but find ourselves arguing all the time, then unconsciously we have committed to arguing. I can't really do their ideas justice in a short review -- read the book and find out for yourselves. I recommend it very highly.

This book gives us the keys to not only improving our relationships, but transforming them into celebrations. Through mind expanding ideas such as appreciation as a spiritual practice, commitmitment to self and others, the Hendricks elevate relationships to the ideal of fun-filled triumphs. They remind us we are here as Divine Beings to serve all, ourselves and our partners, relatives and acquaintances. This book should be standard fare for all high school students, it holds so many proven techniques and practices. Make no mistake, this is an extraordinary book. Buy this book and/or have your local library get a copy ASAP!!

Gay and Kathlyn have done it again! In Lasting Love they have included everything they have learned about creative, conscious, loving relationships since they wrote Conscious Loving in 1990. They walk the reader through the five secrets of creating and maintaining a lasting, close, incredible relationship. In the ER section, they provide immediate, helpful assistance for readers whose relationships are in crisis. This is the book for anyone who wants to create an incredible, close, intimate, loving relationship.

One of the most interesting books on relationships that I have ever read, "Lasting Love: The Five Secrets of Growing a Vital, Conscious Relationship" is a must read for anyone seeking to repair or strengthen their relationship. By studying people in successful long-term committed relationships Gay and Kathlyn Hendricks have found five things in common among all of them. The authors don't pull any punches either as they start right off with the fact that you must take responsibility for your actions. It is only after taking responsibility for your actions that you can change them and take responsibility for your relationship. So the first secret is to understand commitment and take responsibility for a new kind of commitment. The remaining secrets are emotional honesty, establishing a no-blame relationship, dealing with unequal amounts of creative energy being put into the relationship, and engaging in acts of appreciation on a daily basis. Each one of the secrets is examined in detail as the authors describe the problem, give examples of dialogue between couples that demonstrates the problem, and clearly define the path for moving forward. The result is a vital growing relationship that grows stronger each year instead of waning over time. This is not easy stuff that you can just read once, do it, and have your relationship entirely changed in a couple of hours. It involves internal reflection and examination of your self, your motivations, and your past. For some this will require too much work, but for anyone who is having difficulty in their relationship and really wants to make a change this is a roadmap to success."Lasting Love: The Five Secrets of Growing a Vital, Conscious Relationship" is a very highly recommended read for anyone in a long-term relationship or considering one.