Keeping the Love You Find: A Personal Guide

This book has been very helpful to my partner and I. It truly made a difference. In fact, we believe that the book was much more helpful than the therapist that recommended the book. While we used the book as a couple, I strongly recommended it to singles who want to understand themselves better. The exercises are key. If you want things to change for the better -- give this book a try. As for my partner and I, we used this book over a year ago and happily the effects have been lasting. Why am taking the time to write this? Because it sucks to be confused and unhappy and I've been there -- so if this helps anyone take a step in the right direction, I've done a good deed.

Over the past five years, I have reread KTLYF and redone all the exercises several times (I'm midway through the fourth now). Each time, I learn more about myself and my relationships. Each time, I am enlightened by some new insight or gratified to see my hypotheses validated. KTLYF applies real, complex psychology principles in a way that lay people can understand. It's not easy. You are asked to do exercises to uncover yourself. If you don't do the exercises, the book will be of little value. The fastest I've ever been through the process has been a month of working on it several hours a day. But every minute is worth the time and the effort. I can see why I've made the choices I've made; I can see that they actually make sense; I don't need to beat myself up for making them. I am aware. And that awareness is a giant step toward healing and finding the type of love I seek. This is the best self-help book I've ever read.

This book is not handing out easy answers. The books main focus is helping you dig up your personal info. Such things as Upbringing, Dating History, Sexual History, Self-Opinion, Personality, Dreams, etc. When you understand more about yourself, you understand what you need. A bit of warning though, Dr. Hendrix's book could leave you depressed at times. The exercises are very personal in nature and can reopen old wounds, traumas, etc. In the middle I asked myself "Is there any hope for me?" Hendrix answers with a firm, undeniable yes. And its true.I would recommend it to anyone at any age who is willing to do some soul searching, emotional understanding, and self awareness.

I found this book to be extremely insightful...the best I have read...I strongly recommend it for anyone who is serious about improving their chances for happiness in a relationship and is willing to work towards that goal.It is a wonderful guideline I think it is worth the time involved in the exercises and reading.It allows for realization of one's self and needs...Excellent book...I think that Harville Hendrix must be a remarkable therapist.

I first read "Getting the Love You Want" during a relationship that ultimately failed, but was so impressed by Dr. Hendricks that I decided to read his book for singles, "Keeping the Love You Find." This book will help you discover some uncomfortable, yet accurate, information about yourself and how it effects your relationship choices. I wish I'd read it three years earlier!