It's Not Okay Anymore

This is a short easy read book that contains helpful information for anyone being abused. Books that would help a women that has been or is being abused: The Dance of Anger By Harriet Lerner Not to People like us By Susan Weitzan Why does he do that? By: Lundy Bancroft Codependent No More by Melody Beattie The Verbally Abusive Relationship by Patricia Evans 10 Lifesaving Principles for women in Difficult Relationships by Karla Downing Next Time, She’ll Be Dead by Ann Jones The New Codependency by Melody Beattie Better than boundaries Victory Over Verbal Abuse by Patricia Evans When Love Goes Wrong by Susan Schechter and Ann Jones Too Good for Her Own Good by Claudia Bepko and Jo Ann Krestan Controlling People by Patricia Evan The Emotionally Abused Woman by Beverly Engel The Verbally Abusive Man- Can He Change? By Patricia Evans It’s My Life Now by Megan Kennedy Dugan and Roger R. Hock Wounded by words by Jeenie Gordan, Karen Kosman, & Susan Osborn 2nd half going back to abuse may be dangerous Angry Men and the Women Who Love Them by Paul Hegstrom Sweet Suffering: Woman as Victim by Natalie Shainess Emotional Vampires by Albert J. Bernstein The Sociopath Next Door by Martha Stout The gift of fear by Gavin de Becker Emotional Blackmail by Susan forward, Donna Frazier & Susan Frazier Men Who Hate Women and the Women Who Love them by Susan Forward and Joan Torres It’s my life now by Meg Kennedy Dugan & Roger R Hock

I really love this book. It's a great start for those who are starting to realize that they deserve to be treated with respect and dignity, that you really can be a strong person. It was a good wake up call for me and I really appreciated the checklists it gives for getting things in order. Please, please give it a read and if possible, supplement it with counseling and other books like Boundaries by Henry Cloud and John Townsend.

I was already in therapy to learn to cope with my chronic illnesses. My therapist discovered after about six months of treating me, that I was being abused not just physically by my husband, but both verbally and emotionally by my 17 year old step-son who lived with us. This happened because my husband did not and would not stand-up for me. I came across this book one day in the book store, showed it to my therapist, and together we worked on it. Within 6 weeks I was out of the house and on my way to gaining my self-esteem back. So do not be afraid to take that first step. You will feel better about yourself in no time.

I purchased this book when I was struggling with the realization that I was in an abusive relationship. It helped me tremendously to face the truth about my situation, and at the same time this book helped me form an "action plan" of leaving my abusive husband. This book clearly defines the warning signs of abuse and that abuse of any kind, i.e. emotional, verbal or physical is not to be tolerated. In many ways this book gave me the strength to face my problems and to ultimately leave my abusive marriage. If you're a woman reading this review and you think you're in an abusive relationship, please buy this little book and read it thoroughly. It will be one of the best investments you can do for yourself.