It's Nobody's Fault: New Hope and Help for Difficult Children and Their Parents

If you are a parent and are questioning whether or not you should medicate your child, you should read this book. No parent wants to put their child on medicine. This book has helped me realize that medicine is needed for certain disorders and therapy alone does not work all of the time. This book is very informative and will help you understand that yes, medicine does help along with therapy. I enjoyed reading and realize that I am not alone and there is help.

This book did wonders! After the diagnosis of my son, there was some fighting in amongst the family as to whether or not his diagnosis was correct or if it was just my parenting. This book with it's facts and concise examples, helped me through this rough time and even gave me concrete facts I could show my relatives. I would recommend this book for anyone who has just had their child diagnosed.

I don't have a "problem child," but I do have a close relative with an obsessive-compulsive disorder, and someone recommended this book to me for information on that subject. His discussion was brief but thorough and to the point, and I learned some techniques that were very helpful to me in dealing with my immediate problem. I was also favorably impressed with the author's emphasis. Far too many parents, faced with a difficult child, get hung up on what THEY are possibly doing wrong. So they try all the "good parenting" techniques they hear of; but, in their eagerness to redeem themselves as parents, they often begin to view their child as synonymous with his/her problem, and thus almost as an adversary. Dr. Koplewicz focuses squarely on (1) identifying the child's problem and (2) taking measures to deal with it. He makes it clear that, for most children, their disorder is as painful to THEM as it is to their parents, and their parents' mistrust and belief that the child is somehow "using" the problem to manipulate them just makes it harder to solve. I'd recommend this book highly to all parents as a glowing example of how to get your priorities right!

This is the first book that I have read about various "brain disorders" that was simply written and easy for me to understand. For years, we tried to figure out what was the problem with our son, and what we (as parents)were doing WRONG. I felt like I was the worst mom because of my son's behavior (aggressive, defiant, mood swings and hyperactive). We tried every approach (diet, homeopathic remedies, vitamins, different types of discipline and behavior mod...) FINALLY, I read this book and felt at PEACE and HOPEFUL! My "false guilt" was removed and allowed me to be openminded about seeing a psychiatrist and starting my son on medication. IT'S NOBODY'S FAULT! A perfect title for this book! Read it, stop feeling guilty AND get your child the appropriate help they so desperately need!

Parents of children with severe and persistent brain disorders such as major depression, bipolar, obsessive-compulsive disorder, ADHD, and others see their child suffering miserably and often blame themselves. Brain research in the past 10-15 years has revealed that these are highly genetic, treatable, medical disorders, not the result of bad parenting. Koplewicz does an outstanding job of presenting factual information and valuable tips on medical management of a child's disorder. This information can save a child's life if the child has undiagnosed, untreated major depression or bipolar disorder. I have a child with multiple disorders and have found this to be the most authoritative, truly helpful book available. It is a groundbreaker.