Irritating the Ones You Love

After reading more then my share of relationship books, this one really clarifies the core issues that haunt us throughout every relationship we embark on unless you deal with some internal issues that were programmed within us during our early years. Not only does it help you pinpoint the major issues haunting you or your significant other, but it also shows you how to diffuse what is most likely a ticking time bomb. I recommend this book to all my friends.

I wish that I had read a book like this 30 years ago. The author gives reasons why people argue over seemingly trivial things, and he also provides valuable insight into how individuals should go about looking for a partner in the first place. I strongly recommend this book, especially for those who are not yet married and who want to go into a long term relationship with their eyes wide open. This includes unerstanding both the conscious and unconscious reasons we chose the mates we do.

This book identifies and analyzes the things we all need to know in conducting relationships! It is insightful and clever and a must read for anyone in or contemplating a relationship. The Jars technique is an easy and comprehensible way to look at oneself and one's partner and identify what make us tick! THe book is well written and humorously articulate, as well!

this book has changed my whole view of relationships! it's written in plain language, while providing deep insight into the patterns we all go thru. in many ways, the information is about things we all know, but we only know is as "sprinkles"- this is the 1st place i've seen it as a solid entity. very concrete and systematic, w/ lots of entertaining stories i could relate to- great book!