Intimate Communion: Awakening Your Sexual Essence

Wow. I ran across this book about a year ago when I accidentally went to a "tantra" workshop by a woman who taught Deida stuff and this was the "prerequisite" to read before the class (although I didn't know this before showing up for the class and had never heard of David Deida). I had arrived the night before the workshop, borrowed the book and spent most of the night drowning myself in David Deida. A light immediately went on and I knew the truth of what he was saying. I tried out one of the concepts the next week at a desert campout where 2 guys were building a big structure. Normally, I'd have jumped in and helped the construction. But his teachings stopped me and instead, I just unobtrusively brought them snacks and water throughout the day and made sure they were not dying in the desert heat. To this day those 2 guys will get a big grin and introduce me as the one who saved their lives in the desert. From there, I found out about an ongoing group that taught Deida work and continued in active practices, reading and listening to his work. Fast forward 1 year to today and I'm now with my soul mate that I met almost exactly a year after I discovered Deida's work. He naturally has male essence and just looovvveees how I deal with him. He feels bigger and stronger when he's around me and he even attributes his long sought after weight gain, to his body literally filling out to be the bigger man that he's become since he's met me!!! In a way, I feel like Deida's training teaches women how to be muses to their men. Something about your whole energy changes when you start doing this work and I'm a very different person now than I was a year ago. I'm more tolerant towards men, easier to get along with, enjoy sex more, find it easier to "let go" of slights that I wouldn't in the past and I'm more creative about solutions to relationship issues. I don't seem to expect as much from a partner, but always get way more than I could have hoped for. Rather than "needing" something and him giving it to me by obligation, I can create a "space" for him to step into, give me what I want and get what he wants at the same time- all without him knowing that I've even done anything at all. It's almost magical. I can't recommend Deida enough. His teachings definately fly in the face of what society would consider appropriate. Some of it feels downright insulting and disgusting until you try it and find that your man responds in ways that you always thought only guys in romance novels respond to women. I now have the lover that I always wanted, but never thought really existed. I'm totally living a romance novel life and its incredible. Thanks again David Deida!

Things weren't working and I couldn't put my finger on why?This book gave me the opportunity to see these differently and to open to a whole new way of being in relationship.It was refreshingly liberating.

I am still reading this book and cannot wait to share how I feel about it! My husband and I have been married for thirty years, and we have run the gamut of emotions and experiences as lovers and best friends in that span of time. We want to continue to grow in our relationship and David Deida's book is about the intimate communion we all want in our relationships. I dare to say, as I read this book, and watch the news or an "intelligent" talk show about relationships, I see how David Deida's insights could make a difference in understanding and moving FORWARD to resolving the male/female issues in our culture. Oprah, here he comes - a man with tremendous and unusual insights, teaching us how to live in true harmony with the sexes! This book (as well as his other books) truly and deeply respects the feminine as much as the masculine. The points are well-made while honoring and UNDERSTANDING men and women. Thank you, David Deida. The future looks encouraging!

An exceptionally clear and insightful book. The author seems to have a gift for cutting right to the heart of every relationship issue, especially in the context of each individual's spiritual growth. This book, more than any other, has informed my current perspective on relationships, and has proven quite helpful in creating the context to discuss masculine/feminine issues between myself and my partner. We have been using Deida's suggestions with great success for some years now, and our relationship has blossomed in ways we never thought possible, due to our increasing faith in honesty and full expression of each of our gifts. I recommend the book highly to anyone who's at a place of questioning how one can reconcile one's sexuality with one's spiritual path.