Intimate Allies

This book is a must for all marriages. Until we can see our spouses as our allies in a real war, then we will never truly have a marriage that glorifies God. It is easy to read and the questions that follow each chapter are very revealing if done with your spouse, as it was intended.

I am a Pastor and I give this book as a gift to newleyweds. I have found it to be very down-to-earth, not like some of the "how-to-stay-in-love" marriage manuals, but rather focused on serving together - looking at the larger world together - making your relationship strong by being accountable, etc. I LOVE the "communal" focus, making marriage part of the network of society instead of just "me & you babe". I like everything that Dan Allender writes. Filled with insight and practical wisdom.

Great book to read as a couple. We use it in for a couples group at our church bacause it is very easy to identify with the men and women in the stories and beacause it teaches sound Biblical principles of marriage.

This Book is powerful and dissruptive. If you are afraid of looking at your own heart and motives, stay away. If you are looking for easy behavioral steps, don't read it. On the other hand, if you want to make your HEART available to the mysterious work of God in deeply changing you, by all means, this book is for you. The illustrations and stories paint pictures that will impact and disturb you, if your heart is open.

Allendar & Longman have far surpassed books written by conservative Christian books on marriage. They bring a tremendous combination of Biblical and theological material into the practical questions that face spouses. The book is totally free from the well worn platitudes. It is a must read!