If This Is Love, Why Do I Feel So Insecure?: Learn How to Deal With Anxiety, Jealousy, and Depression in Romance--and Get the Love You Deserve!

I would often end up in relationships that I knew were bad from the start. I would immediatly feel a sense of insecurity and jealousy. Deep down, I knew it was something I was "going through". After years of relationship turmoil a close friend recommended this book. I was told it cold be a hard read at first but to bear with it, and it would work miracles. Well, it did! I am now in a wonderful relationship and able to identify feelings or thoughts as they enter in. I am able to recognize them for what they are and not what they have always been. I am now closer to my friends and my parents than ever before. I thank Dr. Hindy and his co-writers for this new chance at life. I may actually venture to Dr' Hindy's office in NH to meet him to thank him personally.

If your love life is plagued by insecurity and jealousy and too much overall emotional drama, please do yourself a favor and read this book. Read it with a hilighter in hand and mark all the parts that really hit home with your particular situation. Then go back and read all the parts you hilighted. If you apply what you learn in doing this, you will be a thousand times happier than you are right now and be able to find the love you have been looking for.I was addicted to self-help books, but since reading this one, I haven't read another one. Haven't needed to. I can't recommend it highly enough. Good luck!

I read this book a few years ago and it felt like someone was looking in my windows. It was so hard to believe there was a whole world of people out there who felt exactly the same was as I did. Insecurity does not equal love. It might produce the butterflies but that is not love. I found that I was always smothering my husband and this led to his withdrawing from me even further. If you find that you are obssessed with thinking your mate is cheating or you have been told by someone "I need my space" then this book is a must read for you. It also gives valuable information for single people so they can avoid scaring away any prospective mates. I passed on my copy and hope it's still in circulation out there. I can't recommend this book enough!

I knew I was controlling in relationships but I didn't know why. This book answered a lot of questions for me. It makes you see how annoying some of your behaviors can be. You will identify with some of the characters. You will realize how you push people away by acting insecure. It really helped me ease off on people and not need to be the boss anymore.