I Kissed Dating Goodbye

Don't let the book's title scare you. I'm a 50 year old divorced woman. I just read this book for the first time and absolutely loved it. Wish I had this book when I was a teenager and making dumb dating decisions. The author did an excellent job of discussing modern dating. It will cause you to examine why you do what you do when it comes to dating. It will make you see if your decisions are biblical or not. I'm buying a second copy of the book so I can share it with young people, before they make wrong emotional decisions based on societal pressures. I highly highly recommend this book to everyone - especially parents, grandparents, teachers, youth leaders, mentors. This is one book you definitely want to have in your toolkit, if you are an influencer of youth and singles.

I really liked this book even though I am not in a dating phase of my life. I am happily married and was reading this book to see if it would be a good resource for my teenage daughter. I know my dating endeavors were haphazard and a lot ended in crashes and my heart burned. I was brought up as a Christian, but I did not know how to seek male/female relationships in a God honoring manner. This book explains so much using Scripture and gives specific examples in the real world of male/female relationships. I highly recommend it.

The book came in good condition. The paper cover was a little worn so I took it off (it was a hardback), but the book is amazing! I love this book!

Fast shipping. I hope this book will serve me for a better understanding of a girl I know.

I first read this book over Christmas vacation. My brother had gotten it for Christmas and I ended up reading it before he did. I couldn't put it down. This book explains what I've been trying to tell people when they find out I don't date. A lot of people think it's weird, but they can think what they want. This book is written so that you can absorb the information printed and then apply what you feel God is calling you to. No, you probably will not agree with everything he has to say. I didn't agree with everything he had to say, but I agreed with most of it. It all comes down to the convictions of your own heart.I was really saddened by reading some of the other reviews. Mr. Harris did not say that dating was a sin. He explicitly said he did not believe that in the book. So many of my friends feel like they always need to have a boyfriend or girlfriend. The problem is, they always believe they hav found the one they are going to marry, then a couple of months later, they break up. I think that you have to be right with God, know who you are, and know where God wants you to be before you can add another person into your life. Then God will send the person for you into your life.To the man who said premarital sex was alright, I don't agree with you. What happens if you don't end up marrying that person? So many people get engaged and never get married. I believe that if you are truly in God's will and are marrying the one he has chosen for you, then knowing if you are sexually compatible before marriage does not matter.

Wow! Wow! Do not hesitate in getting this book. I'm going to read it a 2nd time. Good thing I had a couple red pens because the first one went dry due to the need to underline so many wonderful, Godly points. Joshua Harris is remarkably mature and insightful for his age (early 20s). I'm 26 and now "I've kissed dating goodbye," too. Having been incredibly hurt (and also causing an incredible amount of hurting) in my last supposedly-Christian relationship, the new, God-centered approach he outlines seems like exactly what God would have me do. I've learned to be content in this "season of singleness" and to seek to serve God and prepare for the future He has for me. Harris' prayer for us is God's prayer (Phillipians 1:9-11, "That your love my abound more and more in knowledge and insight so that you may be able to discern what is best and be pure and blameless until the day of Christ, filled with the fruits of righteousness...") This is just one of literally tens of Biblical references that guides Harris every step of the way.If I could have one wish, it was that I would have read this book in 11th grade, before I started dating. It would have saved me (and my ex-girlfriends) a lot of hurt. Thankfully, all things are made new in Christ, and it's never to late to be made new!This book would also be great for married people! In fact, I gave a copy to my mom, both so that she can better understand her children, and also so that she can read about Harris' insights into God-centered relationships.Harris challenges us to serve our brothers and sisters in Christ by protecting both our and their purity, and by not pursuing romantic relationships, contact or activities until God has prepared us and has given us the person He would have us be with. No, he doesn't advocate becoming a hermit. On the contrary, his approach teaches us to cultivate deeper (100% Godly) relationships with members of the opposite sex, carried out only in group settings, so "that nothing need be hidden." I've now got a "passion for purity" in relationships and life in general! While we can never completely eliminate sin, we are either progressing toward or away from purity. Previously, I had been stepping away too often.It also lays out a Godly path for dealing with tough situations in relationships. And it concludes with a helpful section on how to move toward marriage with a potential spouse in a Godly-fashion when God has ordained the "when" and the "who"! Rather than being an "obligation" to wait to date, Harris presents it in a way that makes me feel priveleged to serve God (and myself and His Children) in this way.Harris also includes many good references for further reading. I'm reading one of those books now, called "The Rich Single Life" by C.J. Mahaney. It's also outstanding. I guarantee you've never read a book on relationships like this. As Harris says, "this is not a "how to date" book but a "how to break up wi