How We Love Workbook: Making Deeper Connections in Marriage

"How We Love" has been instrumental in our marriage. It was the first Christian "self-help" book we ever read; we also completed the first several chapters of the workbook together. "How We Love" was the catalyst for examining & understanding our childhoods (both our own and each others) as well as understanding why and how we communicate, argue, sympathize (or not), grieve, harbor anger, etc. so differently. On a personality test (not from their book) I "scored" about 98 out of 100 in the dominant category while my husband sauntered in at about 30 so it shouldn't have been a surprise that we came to a big blip in the road/marriage. Milan & Kay's love for the Lord is evident. Their love for God along with their transparency, encouragement and realness is so much appreciated. Thanks to them, God, and wonderfully commitment family and friends praying for us after 5 months of separation we are getting back together at the end of this month. Our married is renewed, reborn and headed down a very exciting road!!! Thank you!!

I can't imagine how much better my relationship with my wife would have been if I would have known the information in this book before I got married. The understanding of relationships, of myself and others and why we all do what we do in those relationships has been opened up and everything makes a whole lot more sense now. Reading this book has been like opening up a darkened window in a dark room and letting in sunshine and fresh air and along with that comes healing and growth. You can't go wrong reading this book and it just may save your struggling marriage...or any other relationship for that matter.

I've read books before that "categorize" your personality type, etc, and I have never heard anyone describe me... until I read this book. They nailed my personality or "love style", based on how I was raised. It really gave me insight into WHY I do things the way I do. And not only that, but it showed me HOW to work on those areas that need work. Great book... I am buying a copy of the book and workbook for some friends who are getting married. What better way to start off marriage, than to understand yourself better, before trying to understand someone else?! This book has also helped me understand my husband better too and be more compassionate and understanding of him. :)

I purchased this book set for my husband ( & I) for Christmas. I also bought a large blank journal book. We have been working through each chapter of the book/workbook while answering in the journal (me on the right and my hubby on the left). It has been PIVITOL in our relationship and has really helped us change the way we not only relate to each other, but has helped reframe our total thinking & forgiving process. If you are going to start somewhere - this is the place to do it. Milan is also featured on "New Life Live" radio - and he is the 'real deal.' It will be the best money (and time) you have ever spent!

This is a must read for anyone having marital issues. I believe this book brought to light many of the reasons my wife and I have not connected. Easy to read and understand and even enjoyable reading. I plan on purchasing more copies for others. It's a book that I feel I will re-read several times to absorb every detail.