How to Flirt: A Practical Guide

My brother gave me this book when I was 14. He thought I could use a little help being more outgoing, and he was right. I won't say this book totally changed my life, but it did definitely give me a different perspective, and that allowed me to start changing. I'd definitely recommend this book to anyone who wants to be a little more at ease with themselves and everyone around them.

I was working for Chase Manhattan Bank in NYC at the time and happened upon this book on my lunch hour in the WTC bookstore. At the time I was simply feeling that my love life needed more and I needed to somehow meet more women. I also picked up a few of Susin Rabin's books and even went to one of her seminars at the Y in NYC. Rabin's are also great books but at times too wordy. This book was very precise and changed my perspectives in 3 main ways. First it taught me to relax and enjoy myself while flirting. It taught me that flirting is a very natural action that we have all done since childhood in different ways. It made very clear- through words, examples, and exercises - that flirting should be and must be fun to be successfully received. Interestingly enough as I made sure I was having fun flirting and NOT trying to PURSUE - women naturally became very interested in me. Second it helped me to understand the types of women that interest me most and the types of environments that I am most comfortable in. This was important because it helped me to focus my flirting with those I was most interested in and in the environments I most likely to be more "comfortable" and consequently "more successful" in. Lastly through exercises and great humor the book helped me to become more comfortable with myself and the opposite sex. In fact I occasionally re-read the book when I am feeling down to remind myself to just relax and have fun - as you will see, great things often happen when you do. There is no book on Flirting I would recommend higher.

This book is a perfect gift to buy for people who are young, old, newly graduated, newly broken up, newly together, you get the idea. The book is light, but it talks about the difference between fun flirting and possible problems if you don't know the difference between flirting and hunting. Enjoyable read.