How to Argue & Win Every Time: At Home, at Work, in Court, Everywhere, Everyday

I bought this book hoping to learn a tried and true method to win arguments. I found what I was looking for and so much more! This book helped me become a better person because it showed me how to be a good person. The whole world tries to tell you that "good people finish last". Mr. Spence, as a splendid foot soldier, tells us that he has found a fulfilling life in doing the right thing, in the face of oposition and in the full confidence that he would succeed. Lucky for us he did! Read this book and welcome yourself to your own future!

Wow! Alot of folks who have reviewed this book need a hug and a valium (a potent combination I might add).Let me start by saying that the title of this book is a bit misleading, and intentionaly so. This book isn't about arguing as much as it's about communicating. Mr. Spence useds the word 'argument' in the context that everything we articulate- whether it's a desire to teach , punish, express wants or state an oppinion- is essentialy an argument.The twist to this little tome is that effective arguing is not a act of selfishness but a labor of love. A good argument is one in which the greatest good is served.I particularly found the chapter on arguing with kids quite useful. I tend to be quite authoritarian and rule oriented when it comes to child rearing and this little chapter taught me that kids will grow into responsible loving adults without being constantly hovered over and corraled into so called 'correct behavior'. This chapter is worth the price of the book alone.I recommend this book to anyone who has ever asked for anything in his/her life. Well hell! I must be recommending this book to everyone.

This is the first "how to" book that I've read that leaves the "how to" to the reader. The book gives a very insightful account of a man who has come very far through the journey of life by basically doing one thing- listening to himself and his feelings and caring enough about others to understand and work with them. Spence explains his concept of what an argument actually is and gives a truly creative and exciting way to view the whole conflict process. His entire theory of winning an argument is more practical and real than anything I have ever read. This man is among the truly, truly gifted.