How Can You Say That?

This is an excellent book on parenting preteen and teen daughters. It's written for both moms and dads. Though it's apparent that most readers will be moms, dads would benefit from reading about how to talk to their daughters about food, eating and body issues especially. Some parenting books can be more philosophical than helpful. In otherwords, they tell you about a parenting idea and why it is superior, but don't tell you what to do when you are in the trenches with your child. This book is practical. Each chapter has examples of various hurtful, difficult exchanges between parents and daughters. Then the author analyses "what just happened". If you understand what just happened between your daughter and you, then you are better prepared to respond rationally next time you clash with her. Then the author finishes by giving suggestions about what to say next time. "What if you said..." thus and such. The converstations between moms and daughters in this book can be poignent, painful as a pin prick, and just as loving. It's very touching. It has helped me talk with my 10 year old daughter without losing my head a few times.