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Paperback Honey, I Wrecked the Kids: When Yelling, Screaming, Threats, Bribes, Time-Outs, Sticker Charts and Removing Privileges All Don't Work Book

ISBN: 0470156031

ISBN13: 9780470156032

Honey, I Wrecked the Kids: When Yelling, Screaming, Threats, Bribes, Time-Outs, Sticker Charts and Removing Privileges All Don't Work

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Bringing the same perceptive and practical advice that made Breaking the Good Mom Myth an international bestseller, TV personality and psychotherapist Alyson Schafer again comes to the rescue of... This description may be from another edition of this product.

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5 ratings

A bit "pie in the sky" but worth reading for parents

I bought this book when my wife and I had become completely frustrated with what we perceived as rebellious and stubborn behavior in our 9-year-old son. We really thought that we had "wrecked" him in some way dispute all our friends constantly telling us what great parents we are and what an amazing little boy we had. If the book taught me anything that stuck, it's that my kid isn't so bad. I give him much more slack and try to be more diplomatic with him. As a result, my son is always smiling and singing and dancing around. He hates doing homework, but makes sure to get it all done before moving onto play time. He's responsible and compassionate and smart. None of that, it turns out, is a result of reading this book. He's been that all along. The book helped me to put in perspective our expectations of him. It taught me to respect his boundaries a bit more and think more diplomatically about how I address him and explain my expectations to him. I give it four stars because the book provided comfort to my wife and me when we were at our wits end. It didn't change our lives though. It's well written and easy to grasp. I just think the concepts in it are too much like a "hippy commune" mentality that seems to lack real discipline. We as parents are our children's guardians, confidants and mentors. It's a big responsibility. It helps to look at how to deal with all that from different perspectives so that you can get a better handle on your own parenting style. So even if the methods in it aren't for you, this book is cheap enough and light enough to be worthy of the investment of time and money. Your kids won't know you've read it, but they will likely benefit from your greater understanding.

A must read for all parents!

While I have only read part way into the book thus far, I can already say that it is WONDERFUL! Schafer makes the book interesting and not the normal blah blah blah of self-help type books. She delivers the information in a clear and concise manner. Not only does she give you the tools to recognize why your child is 'mis'behaving, but she gives you tactics in which to deal with 'mis'behavior. This book gives you a whole new perspective on not only your children's behaviors, but of YOURS too. I will be purchasing Schafer's other book as well. I anticipate it will be just as insightful as this book.

I love this book

Taking a positive approach to parenting and encouraging my children (as opposed to a focus on punishing misbehavior) is really helping our family. The ideas in this book are what I've always intuitively believed and felt are correct ways to parent. Over the years, negativity and discouragement seeped in and listening to some sources that promote punitive measures didn't help. This book is helping us us to appreciate our children for who they are as they are and that's a much happier way of life! I keep this book on my nightstand and highly recommend it!

A must-have for any parent or anyone who works with kids

UPDATE: Been using the techniques in this book for about a year now. My son is 4.5 and really testing limits. Everytime we're stuck in a power struggle, or he's just acting cranky or becomes tearful, frustrated, or oppositional for reasons I can't understand, I go back to this book and reassess what's going on. Then try again. The strategies work. 9 times out of 10. The only child development/ parenting book I refer to regularly. Clear, logical, effective. Easy to read. Well laid out. No kidding. This is a book you'll go back to over and over again. I had no idea how freeing it would be to focus on the interactions in our family and step back from defining and understand my son (as a "spirited" kid etc etc) until I opened Alyson Schafer's book and read through the introduction. I've got advanced degrees and have worked in education, including special education for years. And I've trained other teachers and professionals who work with kids with language development problems, including autistic and kids with severe behavior problems. I'm very familiar with all sorts of behavioral approaches, tokens, charts, reinforcement schedules, behavior plans, etc etc etc. But in my gut I've never been 100% comfortable with these approaches because I knew their effect is limited. They only deal with the surface. In fact, I don't use stickers or other sorts of reward systems or charts at home (although I tried them with potty training, to no avail when the novelty wore off). Real change in behavior goes much deeper. It really does come from within the individual. It's based on a sense of satisfaction that comes from warm, respectful relationships with others and a sense of pride and capability in oneself. Even when I used these reward systems at work, I knew what most kids were after was my approval and what they mostly wanted was time with me or another adult who was really interested in them. (Lunch at McDonalds was the prize kids most often wanted to earn.) I bought this book about a week ago while looking for more ideas (NOT just general principles!) for working with my spirited, intense 3-year old son. I realized that I (and my husband) had already fallen into some power struggles with him. Nothing huge. But nothing I wanted to continue either. I was looking for real PRACTICAL how-to- advice beyond what I found in Mary Sheedy Kurcinka's excellent "Raising your Spirited Child" and all the recent books on raising boys like Michael Thompson's "It's A Boy: Your Son's Development from Birth to Age 18." And I've felt that labels like "difficult" and "strong-willed" also only go so far (even when these terms are turned around and understood--very helpfully and clearly-- in a positive light, e.g., as "spirited). Don't get me wrong. Kurcinka's work is invaluable, and so is Thompson's and all the other work on this topic of raising boys (and appreciating 'spirit'). Much needed information here! In fact, the work on gender and developmen

No more yelling

I read the book in 4 days two weeks ago, I haven't yelled at the kids since. I am more relaxed and so are the kids. They are already behaving better and more respectfuly. Best of all, they seem happier too. This book is funny and easy to read but the information is still presented thoroughly and logically. A must buy for any parent who wants an easier and more respectful approach to living with their kids.
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