Hidden Bedroom Partners: Needs & Motives That Destroy Sexual Pleasure

HIDDEN BEDROOM PARTNERS: NEEDS AND MOTIVES THAT DESTROY SEXUAL PLEASUREThere is a new and dangerous phenomenon creeping into the modern bedroom. Millions of couples are having sex when they really want and need something else--affection, intimacy, reassurance, revenge, escape from boredom or to express anger. The authors have coined the term "nonsexual sex" to describe this practice of using sex as a vehicle to express or satisfy emotional needs that should be kept out of the bedroom.Most couples are not aware that they are using sex in this way, and the danger is that sex can never satisfy nonsexual needs. Thus, the couple is left feeling frustrated, unfulfilled or that something is wrong or missing in their sex lives. They think they have a sex problem or that sex is not all it is supposed to be. In fact, it is not, and the authors present convincing arguments that sexual satisfaction can be increased a hundredfold in most relationships.This book is a guide for discovering "sexual sex"--intense, pleasurable sex, free of hidden emotional needs. Each chapter describes one of these needs, its whys, wherefores and deleterious effects. Exercises, homework assignments, preventive measures, and other solutions are suggested for correcting the problem or improving an already good relationship. The authors also tell us, in fascinating detail, how we have learned to misuse sex and why we continue to do so.