Healing Your Aloneness

Most of us have been raised by parents who did not realize the damage they did to us in our formative years. This book allows us to see and repair that damage and therefore to treat ourselves as our parents should have treated us. I recommend this book highly.

This is really one of the most profound books out there on Inner Child work. It is written in a concise, easy to read and follow manner. I bought it some time ago and recently was drawn back to reading it and this time the light bulb really went off and I really "got it." The authors do an excellent job in really making it very reader-friendly. My copy is now dog-eared and highlighted all through...it has helped me tremendously and continues to help me tremendously as an individual, and also as a counselor/therapist.

All growth is really hard work. This is hard work. I would equate it to the transformation that The Incredible Hulk goes through. The thing is though, it isn't that fast. It takes time and dedication. I've read maybe 30 books and they all have their wisdoms and their truths, but it was this book that put me on the road I needed to be on. Somethings just resonate. This resonated with me, and when I started communicating with the abandoned and hurt child within me, I could for the first time see what had gone wrong and what I needed to do to fix it. I'm not completely there, but I have no doubt that I will.

ReviewI read "Healing Your Aloneness" because my daughter asked me to. She felt it would help me understand the type of therapy she was involed in and give us a common language that might improve the quality of the communication between us. I am so very glad I followed my daughter's lead.This book taught me the Inner Bonding process in such a beautiful way, with moving stories from the lives of some of the authors'clients. It helped me see that, in responding to my daughter'swounded Inner Child, I was in "Intent to Protect" my ego instead of "Intent to Learn" about my daughter's pain.I thought I was helping to heal the gap between us by the things I said to my daughter. But what I learned from the non-judgemental way the authors helped others understand how a "Loving Adult" relates to a wounded "Inner Child" showed me why she stayed distant.Now, when my daughter talks about her wounded Inner Child, I have the awareness and the tools to let her know I hear her heart. We are not home yet, but the gap is closing. My daughter now knows that she can trust that I love her, that I will "hang in there" with the healing process and that, if she lets me know what her Inner Child needs, I will try my very best to provide it."Healing Your Aloneness" gave me another gift. It helped me get in touch with and listen to my own Inner Child. He is seven. His name is "Billy," He, too, has wounds that have not healed. He, too, is angry at me for not listening to him, for not being there. I am continuing to bond with him from my "Loving Adult." He is so bright,so wise, so needy, so capable of joy. I love that little boy and he too is beginning to trust that I do.I am grateful that the authors have put the Inner Bonding process in a book that is such a joy to read. Reading it has not only helped me have the loving relationship I so wanted with my daughter, it has helped me to love myself.

I am so thrilled at the difference reading this book has made in my life. I have learned the key to finding true happiness and joy for myself. The information in this book could make a dramatic diference in everyone's life. I strongly support the amazing concept of Inner Bonding as described in this book, it works!