Growing Up Again: Parenting Ourselves, Parenting Our Children

Reading Growing Up Again has given me tremendous insights into the kind of parenting I was given and how that is affecting my parenting and grandparenting. I find that I go back to the book often and re-read portions of it. As an adoptee, I especially appreciated the chapter devoted entirely to adoption. Thank you, Connie and Jean!

I grew up in a dysfunctional family, like most of us in this world. As a result, people are not given the necessary information needed in order to live as God intended as a whole, spiritual person. This book will help you begin to understand the gaping holes and emptiness you feel as a person. It examines parenting from both the child and the parent viewpoints, which makes it extremely easy to grasp all the concepts presented. If you are seeking answers, this book has them. Be prepared to face defiance from your family and other "unsafe" people in your lives as you challenge the myths of your childhood. I wish you much strength on your journey toward the truth. This book is so powerful and insightful in a straightforward approach that can be easily understood, that I feel it should be incorporated in a human growth and development class and required in our society. Our lives would be happier and our world would be a better place as a result. I strongly recommend it to everyone.

I think this book is excellent because it is very user friendly and it has helpful stretegies for people in general. Whether you are single, married, with children, or with out, you can learn a lot about yourself and others in your life.

Of all the parenting books I have ever read, and as a Parent Educator I've read many, this is the book I go back to again and again. The charts and illustrations are so clear and concise, even parents with limited time and/or education can quickly assess the need of the child and choose a solution most effective for each situation. I recommend it as a must-have!

The chapter on "Ages and Stages" gives clear easy to read guides on what we humans learn when and how, and then how to learn "it" now if we did not learn it then. For instance, if you are "Scared to say no and allow others to dominate." then perhaps between 18 months and 3 years you did not learn how to express and handle feelings. One activity that might be helpful for an adult today, is learning how to use a "Fuss Box" (complete instructions are included) to express those feelings. Then instead of the feelings, such as anger controlling you, you can express and release those feelings and then move on to problem solving. I found it to be the best book of its kind