Getting Past the Affair: A Program to Help You Cope, Heal, and Move on -- Together or Apart

I did find this book helpful. However if you are ever a victim of an affair. No book is going to cure it. It is full of information that can help you when you need to feel understand about your own feelings. As far as coping and healing goes. I will never forget it. It is your partners responsibility to earn back the trust. Unless your partner is giving all they can to fix what THEY destroyed. This book is only for you and you alone. Use it for yourself and move on!!!

I am a marriage and family therapist who only works with couples. Many of these couples come with either a current or past affair as a problem. Until this book came out, I recommended Not Just Friends, by Shirley Glass. While that is an excellent book, this book is even better. The chapters are crystal clear and specific. Each person is assigned a task in the healing. General principles are stated as frameworks so that each person has a mindset to go by. I will be recommending this book to all couples who come with this problem. Michael T. Clifford LMFT Everett WA Certified Gottman therapist, Certified Emotion Focused Therapist

This is a great book for both partners in the damaged marriage. It uses non-offensive terms to refer to each of the involved parties. It provides very good strategies and examples for coping with the initial stages after the affair is discovered, as well as for working on repairing the marital relationship. It is particularly helpful with suggesting ways for each individual as well as the couple to reflect on why the affair occurred, to deal with emotional reactions, and to communicate with each other going forward. I have read several books, and this is one of the top two or three.

This book is very 'real'! Not so clinical like many others and helps with both parties to heal together. I bought three books and I find this one the best so far.

I highly recommend this book for anyone trying to live through infidelity. I have read several books and this one had so much helpful information. It was written in a way that didn't attack the participating party or the injured party but gave good information for all parties involved. Unfortunately my spouse chose not to read the book with me but reading it really helped me to understand and validate what I was going through. If you are faced with the heartbreak of infidelty this is a must read book. If you don't read anything else, read this.