Getting Naked Again: Dating, Romance, Sex, and Love When You've Been Divorced, Widowed, Dumped, or Distracted

I am a widow who still has many (good) years ahead of her. I also have several friends in the same position - suddenly single again after a long term relationship/marriage. I gave this book as a Valentine gift to myself and my friends. It is time to re-learn what used to come naturally! It has been quite successful so far!

So, here I am. Forty years old and fresh out of a 19 year long marriage. On one hand, I'm tempted to give up, grab my dog and retreat to singlehood forever. But, for some reason, I can't. Even though I'm shy and reclusive, I feel the need for a significant other in my life. I tried online dating for a few months and was beset by weirdos and creeps. Is there something wrong with me that I only attract losers? I finally broke down and bought a couple of dating books. Let me first say that I loathe the concept of self-help and pop psychology. I think of myself as a unique and special snowflake and none of that drivel applies to my perfect, unique self, right?! Wrong. This book doesn't exactly say anything you don't already know, but it presents it in a clear way. For me, it helped crystallize my intent, and offered consolation that other women have walked this path and emerged happy. She also points out certain pitfalls that might be unique to older women. For example, how does your relationship with all the other men in your life change once you become single? I hadn't exactly thought about that, but suddenly realized why some of my long standing male friends and co-workers seem a little less at ease around me. They're not quite 'buddies' anymore. After reading it, I'm determined to go on more dates with men that I may have unfairly rejected for petty reasons. Yes, I have rejected men on the basis of poor spelling. I'm determined that the next guy doesn't have to be the one and only. He can be a pleasant evening and nothing more. I've reconsidered that it might be okay to become physically intimate with someone I don't intend to spend the rest of your life with. Most of all, I really enjoyed the author's writing style and witty asides. I will definitely read more of her books. Lastly, can I point out that she has coined one of the most delightful phrases I've ever come across? "Fretful salsa of age". I just love it. I'm so glad this was the first dating advice book I read. Check out my other reviews for the flip side of the coin.

If you're getting into the dating/ romance/ sex/ love world again after being out of it for a long time, this is absolutely the book you need to read. Author Judith Sills, Ph.D., clinical psychologist and author of several psychology books, writes for women in a warm, pull-no-punches style and zooms in on those issues that concern - or should I say, obsess? - us when we're considering reentering the dating game and becoming naked physically and emotionally again. It's a a modern, how-to book about dating again, and it's also a guide to preparing yourself to make that transition. Joan Price, author Better Than I Ever Expected: Straight Talk About Sex After Sixty

Unbelievably great book. Love it. recommend it to anyone [single women in their late 40s and 50s.

I have to admit, the title caught my eye. Well, the read was even better. It's a book for women who've been in long term relationships for a while and who want to get out there and find true love again. I don't think it's just for "older" women, as some of the advice is dead-on and younger readers will really identify with it, too. (some women get married very young and divorced young, too.) So, I'd suggest this for all age groups; all women who want to have good relationships. This book tells how. Also likeed: Menu Dating: Taste-Test Your Way to the Main Course.