Get Your Loved One Sober: Alternatives to Nagging, Pleading, and Threatening

I am so happy to recommend this book! I was looking for a better way to get my friend into treatment and found some of the latest research on HBO's website for their series, "Addiction". The HBO website has video clips that describe the CRAFT method and how it is proven to be the most effective, so I bought this book with high hopes. My friend decided he was ready for detox within a week of using this approach. I am grateful for tips like watching for a window and planning for treatment in advance. CRAFT is about empowerment with positive reinforcement - without anger or judgment. This book shows how important it is to avoid shame and guilt about addiction. I wish I could give this book to everyone in Al-Anon. Al-Anon was not offering anything but a support group for feeling OK about doing nothing - "Letting Go". It did not make sense to detach from my alcoholic friend and wait for him to hit a new bottom. I did not want to isolate him further or fall back into enabling and this book explained how to take action in a healthy way. Thank you to the authors - and to HBO for promoting CRAFT. Why isn't this more talked about?

I have been using this program for 9 months. I know it works for me and see great progress with my afflicted one. It is uplifting, gives me hope and encouragement, and makes sense. I read passages I have underlined almost every day. I learn something almost every day. This struggle is not easy and this book helps me a great deal.

This book has been very helpful. It promotes fixing the problem BEFORE hitting rock-bottom. I have used some strategies and I have been successful so far. It is, of course, a process that takes time, but this book gives hope. I highly recommend this book to anyone who lives with an alcoholic but isn't ready to hit rock-bottom with them. These strategies take effort on the readers part, but it is worth it.

This book provides practical real-world direction for dealing with painful, frustrating situations involving substance using family members. I would recommend this book to anyone who has a family member who won't get help for their addiction. It is easy to read and gives clear direction for real world problems.

For anyone who has struggled with the helplessness and the pain of loving an alcoholic, this is the book for you. Meyers and Wolfe lay out a definitive and realistic plan of ACTION. Finally someone has the courage to say "You CAN help your loved ones." This unique approach has the potential to give new hope to so many. Thank you to these authors.