Gender Shock

This book was an excellent read. Not only did Phyllis Burke entertain, but she also informed me of something I had previously been unaware of: "Gender Identity Disorder"The book gives great detail of the stereotypes and myths surrounding gender in the US and other countries. It offers a view on several case studies and individuals diagnosed as having GID.

This book helped us to celebrate our "gender independent" son (a term that Phyllis Burke coins, that I love). Before we read this book, we supported our son's differentness, but we never celebrated it. This book helped our family to truly appreciate what a gift we have in our child.

This is a fabulous book that describes the painful and disturbing things that are done to people, especially children, to try to fit them within the social stereotypes of male and female. It is very powerful, and (re)challenged me to value to person way above the box.

When glancing over one of the reviews which stated 'everyone should read this book,' I couldn't help but second that advice. This book is one of the most disturbing I have read about gender in that it outlines the extent to which some psychologists, psychiatrists, parents and others go to have children 'conform' with societal norms relating to boys' and girls' behavior.I couldn't help but wonder what these doctors and parents thought was at stake when a son didn't enjoy 'rough and tumble play' or a daughter did too much. Obviously, fears of homosexuality were paramount, yet some of the treatments were so painful - emotionally and otherwise - to both parents and child that it was rather unsettling to see people go to such lengths to have children act as they're 'supposed' to. And I cannot help but surmise that household contributions on the part of men might be more significant were they brought up playing house or with dolls or any of the other activities that provide early training for girls. Gender equality, however, was clearly not what these parents or doctors were seeking.The overview of some specific cases clearly illustrates the points that the author tries to make. It's well written and accessible yet addresses some very complicated issues about how we view gender and those who diverge from established standards. It's a must-read for anyone concerned with gender roles, gender equality and the lengths society will go to to make sure that roles remain defined and immutable.

This book, written by an intelligent and wise person, is truly insightful. I just wish society were more like this rather than convincing boys who are sensitive that they must be gay. That's a point made in this book, that gender and sexuality are distinct. This book should be required reading by everyone, especially teachers and parents, so that the current air of political correctness would become a true theme of understanding and acceptance. And our youth may be allowed to unfold into the persons they really are, not pressured to fit the mold of distinctly masculine or distinctly feminine, and made to feel weird if they don't. A fascinating read!