From Fear to Love: Overcoming the Barriers to Healthy Relationships

Anything other than love is fear based. Many couples are so accustomed to choosing fear over love it is second nature. The Kane's share tools and stories to assist couples to make good choices and keep love alive. Many couples have been conditioned to shutdown, and are more comfortable pulling away. This book is a great guide to build a good foundation for love. Annie B. Lawrence, author of Love's Secret Live Your Life In Love.

A friend gave me this book and once I started reading it I didn't want to put it down. I believe the title might be misleading because I believe it hits on many things in life and many situations that we all go through, this book is for everyone. I loved the books so much I bought ten of them and passed them out to family and friends. I received the same reaction from the people I gave it to!

From Fear to Love provides a refreshing, honest outlook on real relationships. An incredible ability to share about the intense trials of their own lives and marriage, the authors were able to grab ahold the hands of their readers and journey through the pain and fear that so often dominates many relationships. However, Ray and Nancy Kane refuse to get distracted or lose hope in their fear, but instead fight through their battles of fear and control until a real, sincere love was found. This book gives hope and inspiration to those struggling to find sincere, unselfish love. They write in a simple, enjoyable manner that all readers can relate to.

"The experience of overcoming fear is extraordinarily delightful."-- Bertrand Russell.Ray and Nancy Kane's book is that kind of experience. The Kanes examine fears that can paralyze individuals, especially fears that get played out in relationships. The reader doesn't feel isolated from the counselors/authors because they own up to their own struggles with fear as a couple. They use their struggles as a spring board to say, "Even as professional counselors, we know marriage is tough, we've been there. But we didn't stay trapped in fear and you don't have to either. There is a way out. It is love -- real love." The Kanes go on to suggest practical ways to conquer fear through love, especially in marriage.They also look at fears in our society and offer reasons why love is the only force that can conquer fear. The power of the love they are talking about becomes very clear in the chapter, "Love that overcomes." There they talk about 9/11 as a example of love and courage winning out over fear. They mention the firefighters who charged up stairs to save strangers, and men like Todd Beamer -- who let love override fear. "Like beacons of light, certain individuals illumined a path for us to follow. They have showed us that when love and courage prevail, anything can be overcome" (181). This is not mushy love, or Hollywood-style love, it is love made of stuff that does not melt under fire.The Kanes state that it is not their experience as professional counselors, but their mutual faith in God that is what enables them to love sacrifically and powerfully. And, at the end of the book they write,"We invite you to join those who have loved without limits and given without restriction both their care and compassion. Let us move from fear to true, life-transforming love." The invitation is a welcome one.