ISN'T IT TIME YOU SHED PERFORMANCE-BASED LIVING? When Alas Wright's childhood family collapsed, he took the blame. As a wounded fourth grader, Alan secretly wondered, What's wrong with me? How can I become loveable again? Unconsciously, he made the most devastating--and common--of vows: "I'll do whatever it takes to be loved." Excelling in sports, earning straight A's, and well-liked by everyone--except himself--Alan had...