Filling the Void: Six Steps from Loss to Fulfillment

This book is designed for all kinds of people, so inevitably you'll find advice that doesn't apply to you. I almost didn't read this book because it seemed "corny" at first glance. I'm so glad I did finally read it. It thoroughly illuminates the process you'll go through while grieving and recovering. I found the parts that did apply to me, and it helped me deal with a loss. I have 2 copies of this book, as I never want to be without it. I've twice loaned a copy to grieving friends, they respond with positive reviews. A family member is currently in declining health, I absolutely dread the impending loss. Having this book around is a source of strength for me.

"Filling the Void" by Dorthy Bullitt: Buried inconspicuously in the recesses of a seemingly unending succession of vignettes of those suffering grievous losses, Bullitt exposes the underlying dynamic which produces that terrible 'void' which eats away at our soul. "In the midst of your troubles, you may feel alone. You may feel that no one has ever suffered as much as you have." It is this aloneness, this separation from our fellow man, that creates the intolerable void which drags us, each in our own way, through a living hell. And Bullitt offers a prescription for this malady. A prescription not limited to a single source of relief, but one covering virtually all sources of healing. It is this ecumenical spirit which makes this book a valuable guide to those seeking a way out from the desperate isolation which loss and the acompanying grief evokes. Reading the countless stories of tragedy and loss, one can hardly feel that he/she is alone. We are reminded again and again that indeed, suffering is a part of life, and it is our responsibility to pull ourself out of the "downward spiral", which will lead to the annihilation of the spirit, and a life of unhappiness and unfulfillment. Bullitt offers any number of ways to fill this void in our very being, through her six step approach toward "filling the void". Each step is replete with a liberal variety of examples and suggestions which should reach the widest diversity of readers. Practical reminders of the key points of each chapter helps the reader whose mind is often clouded with emotional confusion, to gain a sense of focus. The primary message, aside from halting the progression of pain, is reattachment to the human race. The divisive element of self absorption and self pity, is constantly countered with suggestions to move outward from self, and begin to share our special gifts with other unfortunates who likewise feel alone and separate. It is this sharing which once again brings us back into the mainstream of humanity, and it is through our humanness that we will gain fulfillment. The author writes with a sense of knowing, and it is obvious that her experiences are derived from participation in the losses of the real world. The many vignettes of those facing the tragedies which life offers, instills in the reader the sense of courage which is engendered by those who succeed in life. This is truly a 'take charge' book, and will offer the reader an opportunity to retreat from the ravages which are encountered on life's journey, and discover a way to fulfillment.